to think it's weird that a parent hangs about my child's nursery all the time?

(139 Posts)
Christmas78 Tue 13-Nov-12 10:49:04

I should start by saying I know I'm paranoid. I just don't know if I'm being completely paranoid this time!

Regularly when I pick up my baby there is this one father sitting around in the baby room at the nursery chatting to the girls who work there. He's a parent of one of the older babies so he's got a right to be there. I just don't get why he's there all the time! I pick my DS up at different times of the day as I work from home so it's definitely not just a one off. And why does he hang around like it's his sitting room or a coffee shop?

My issues are 1) the girls spend all their time bantering with him when I feel they should be focussing on the babies and 2) I just find it a bit weird that he's around my child so often and not a carer. I mean, I'm tempted to ask if they've blimming CRB checked him.

stinkinseamonkey Fri 16-Nov-12 14:50:21

There were parents at DSs nursery too who were ALWAYS there when I dropped off DS and were still there when I left, then at pick up they were there when I arrived and still there when I was taking DS out the door

they were complaining.. every day.. about EVERYTHING! they totally monopolised the staff.

It was usually the father as the mother did longer hours at work

It was actually really really annoying for the rest of us who never got to have a quick chat with the key workers because they were always whinging about sandwich fillings or a bit of paint on a sleeve! Was same at parent's events!

Wasn't anything sinster though, just super super annoying! angry

MonthlyName Fri 16-Nov-12 12:42:12

I had a friend (female) who stayed at nursery to help. Because she couldn't leave her son, even though her son was fine without her there, she just didn't want him to be independant. Would it be the same if the op person had been female? Or guessing all the parents throught my friend was wierd too

Aboutlastnight Fri 16-Nov-12 12:37:17

Op, why not pop in to the office or ask at picking up time who the man is?

Just say, ' do you have someone new working here? Or is that a parent helper?'

I would save egging his car for when the nursery confirms he is a paedophile who likes to pop in for a chat wink

Whodyanickabollockoff Fri 16-Nov-12 10:30:01

*only joking sorry

Whodyanickabollockoff Fri 16-Nov-12 10:15:19

egg his car (ask the questions later)

pigletpower Fri 16-Nov-12 00:14:54

Hey Cortana! Nursery staff not doing their job again.Lot of it about it seems

Mintberry Thu 15-Nov-12 19:20:28

The parent helper idea sounds plausible to me.
Or maybe he's friends with some of the staff, so when he goes to pick his kid up, he lurks around a bit talking to them?
Maybe he's a single dad and he fancies one of them. wink
It's probably nothing to worry about, but I understand why you'd be protective.
Maybe discretely ask one of the people who work there who he is, just to be sure? I'm sure they'd understand, you're just playing it safe.

TiggyD Thu 15-Nov-12 19:18:27

I need to leave this thread before Raspberry Fanjo corrupts me.

Like us serious minded helpful people said: Probably nothing interesting, but he should distract the staff so much. Talk to the manager.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 19:13:44

but it was fun! grin

Raspberrysorbet Thu 15-Nov-12 19:12:31

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Greensleeves Thu 15-Nov-12 19:11:47

Fanjo

You have let the school down, you have let your parents down, and above all you have let yourself down

And open a window, you horrid girl

<wrinkles nose at fart>

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 19:09:33

tell someone who cares <sticks out tongue>

Greensleeves Thu 15-Nov-12 19:08:40

Fanjo and Raspberry

I am not angry, just sad.

Mrs Marriott

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 19:08:19

<farts>

Raspberrysorbet Thu 15-Nov-12 19:07:43

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FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 19:03:51

<hangs head in shame> <flips bird when Claire is not looking>

Greensleeves Thu 15-Nov-12 19:01:59

Fanjo and Raspberry

I want to see you in my office at 9.20 sharp. I hope you are thoroughly ashamed of your behaviour.

Mrs Marriott

Raspberrysorbet Thu 15-Nov-12 18:58:12

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FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 18:55:40

oops. my bad. The poor OP

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 18:55:28

yes, please don't stare at my fanjo winkgrin

Raspberrysorbet Thu 15-Nov-12 18:52:30

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FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 18:44:24

this will probably unleash another session of fanjo kicking

Raspberrysorbet Thu 15-Nov-12 18:39:03

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FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 15-Nov-12 18:34:30

The OP had not posted on the thread for 24 hours

ClareMarriott Thu 15-Nov-12 18:29:09

Fanjo and Raspberry

I'm sorry if either of you thought I was being passive agressive or patronising but after reading all the various threads I noticed that from 14th Nov 16.12 there were 12 threads between you too that had nothing to do with what the OP had been talking about and various posters commenting on . I just felt rather sad that you felt you could both hijack the thread in that way.

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