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A thread for fellow Disney haters - AIBU to.....

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pictish Mon 12-Nov-12 14:08:58

Not buy dd her heart's desire for Christmas?

She wants a Minnie Mouse toy. She is 3 - will be 4 in February.

Now - she only wants one because her little friend is a Minnie obsessive. She (the friend) has Minnie clothes, Minnie toys, Minnie bedroom, Minnie this Minnie that....and in particular, a Minnie plush toy that dd jealously covets whenever we visit their house.

I dislike most things Disney - it would be a cold day in Hell before I would shell out for a trip to Disneyland (Paris OR Florida). We don't even have the Disney channel...so dd's knowledge of Minnie Mouse is simply through her wee pal.

Of all the things Disney - the biggest turn off is Mickey and Minnie Mouse. They're ugly and irritating, and represent all the things about Disney I balk at. The merchandising, the American-ness of it all. Tasteless, brash and tacky is how I find it and them.

Now - I don't expect everyone to agree with that, but that is how I feel. We all have our particular dislikes, and things we won't cave in about, and Disney is mine. A handful of DVDs is one thing - the merchandising quite another.

I don't want to buy her a Minnie Mouse - she will take it everywhere and it will annoy the fuck out of me. Dh says no way, as he hates Disney too.

AIBU?

I am popping out to take ds2 to his swimming lesson, so I will expect to come back to a bunch of replies telling me how awful I am. grin

Oh - and should add - ds2 (who is a year older than dd) has now started saying he wants a Mickey Mouse, as they always like to have the same stuff. I am appalled!

FreudianLisp Mon 12-Nov-12 14:09:59

Well maybe we're both BU, but I agree with you.

Well if you and DH both hate Disney and dont want her to have minnie mouse its a no brainer isnt it....dont buy her one.

However, as she gets older it will be harder not to let her have stuff just because you dont like it. Milk it now while you can smile

MolotovBomb Mon 12-Nov-12 14:11:49

YABU

This isn't about you and what you dislike. It's abou your LO and what she likes.

Shell grow out of Disney soon enough. Let her have this and stop being such a misery-guts.

DameMargotFountain Mon 12-Nov-12 14:12:34

she can't possibly have one of satans spawn a minnie mouse toy because it will get muddled up with her friends wink

i fucking hate the disney shite too

stinkinseamonkey Mon 12-Nov-12 14:12:50

I'm with you on the disney hating, however I would worry that a hard line now will result in a disney themed rebellion later (once they can go to the shops with their own money) IYKWIM

can you find a second hand one so that no money is going to disney?

Sparkleandshine78 Mon 12-Nov-12 14:13:53

Yes YABVU....

They love mickey an Minnie and you and your DH are complete mardy spoilsports grin

ps the disney store has them cheap at the mo,
your worst nightmare
your other worst nightmare

Just think of their little faces when they see those in their Christmas stockings!

stinkinseamonkey Mon 12-Nov-12 14:15:21

"This isn't about you and what you dislike. It's abou your LO and what she likes."

DS likes biscuits and fizzy drinks for dinner, I don't like to give him crap for every meal.. but its not about what I think is good for him right?? hmm

The child is THREE, the OP is the parent, it IS up to the OP to decide what is good for the child and what is not! and I agree that disney is poisonous shite!

HoneyDragon Mon 12-Nov-12 14:17:18

If that is really all she really wants for Xmas than UABU (but I get why you don't like it)

She likes it
She likes playing with her friend and they can play Minnie together
It's just a mouse
She's probably asked for it for Xmas because she figured Santa is more likely to let her have it than you grin

Stop being a grinch wink

LexieSinclair Mon 12-Nov-12 14:18:23

Well, I hate Disney too, especially the princesses. And don't get me started on what they have done to poor Winnie the Pooh. But kids seem to love it - DD, who is now 5 is only just coming out of her Disney obsession phase. I think you just need to go along with or she will want it to the point of obsession, or someone else will get it for her anyway. I find that little girls have very little taste - the way I see it if it's harmless and makes her happy then so what. smile

Chopstheduck Mon 12-Nov-12 14:19:59

those massive ones are far too big to be carried around everywhere too, so they would be perfect.

yabu.

I can't stand football. I really loathe it, and won't be in the room when it's on. If there is a game dh really wnats to see, I go out and leave him to it. I think they are overpaid, over rated, I hate the hooliganism, the racism, the testosterone. But my three boys love it.

I proudly watch dt1 appear on tv a couple of weeks ago as a mascot for arsenal then turned it off before kickoff. I drive them to football skills sessions, and ds1 plays for his school, and i encourage him fully. I buy them the strips, the gear, the toys, books, etc. I won't watch a game, but I don't stop them from enjoying something THEY want to do.

specialknickers Mon 12-Nov-12 14:20:19

Nope. Don't give in. Disney is evil. If she still wants one when she's 16 and has started her first saturday job, she can buy one herself wink.

LexieSinclair Mon 12-Nov-12 14:20:29

You can hardly compare a Mickey Mouse toy to feeding a child fizzy drinks and biscuits every day.

Happypiglet Mon 12-Nov-12 14:20:39

It's a mouse....with cute clothes....and will make your DD happy.... YABU....

Happypiglet Mon 12-Nov-12 14:21:50

And Minnie isn't evil.... She is a small mouse!!!

KellyElly Mon 12-Nov-12 14:26:05

The child is THREE, the OP is the parent, it IS up to the OP to decide what is good for the child and what is not! and I agree that disney is poisonous shite! So disney is 'bad' for a three year old. I've heard it all now. Some of you on here are absolutely barking.

bellabreeze Mon 12-Nov-12 14:27:17

Yanbu, I agree with you. I'm sure she will be very very happy with the presents you choose for her, if you feel like it though you could get a second hand minnie mouse so you're not giving your money to disney

bananaistheanswer Mon 12-Nov-12 14:27:26

If you stand firm on this, you risk making minnie the ONE thing your DD covets more than anything else, for as long as she's banned from having it, meaning she will never grow out of this phase. And when you can't stop it, she'll disney-fy her whole life to spite you grin. If you give in, this one thing, she'll get bored with it soon enough and then you can hapily bin it without her noticing.

stinkinseamonkey Mon 12-Nov-12 14:27:28

"You can hardly compare a Mickey Mouse toy to feeding a child fizzy drinks and biscuits every day"

you're right, disney is far more evil than biscuits!

bananaistheanswer Mon 12-Nov-12 14:30:23

I should add, I didn't do the whole 'pink' thing with DD as I loathe all that bollocks. She still became obsessed with everything in pink at aged 3. Against my better judgement, I bought her all her presents with a pink theme <boak> and it lasted about 18 mths before she denounced all things pink. So phase over, and I get to buy some really funky stuff for DD now that she won't turn her nose up at 'cos it's not pink. <taps nose> you need to be a bit more savvy about these fads. grin

stinkinseamonkey Mon 12-Nov-12 14:30:57

yes kelly, Disney is "bad" for a 3 year old, it portrays women in a really shite way! for one haven't you noticed that all disney mothers are either dead, evil, absent, weak or insignificant? Whereas fathers are heros or the one whose approval is of vital importance?

They twist classic stories beyond recognition

Biscuits aren't that bad in moderation!

bellabreeze Mon 12-Nov-12 14:31:00

KellyElly, think about it, disney princesses for example can give young girls their ideas of how a woman/girl should be and act and its not in a good way at all.

Also disney are a horrible company and if someone doesn't want to give them money then that is their right.

I don't give my kids nestle stuff and that's fine because there are plenty of other options.

stinkinseamonkey Mon 12-Nov-12 14:32:11

As for the company itself! it's VILE! deaths and injuries on its land are covered up etc

Peanutbutterfingers Mon 12-Nov-12 14:34:50

Kelly, personally I DO think that Disney is bad for 3 yr olds. And children of pretty much any age. They are behind a lot of the 'princessification' of girls, the physical attributes of women are not what our young girls should be aspiring to or thinking is normal and promote the myth that girls need to be rescued by a man. It is not harmless. It is bilge.

bellabreeze Mon 12-Nov-12 14:39:17

And the only women with any power in their films are evil, ugly and never win

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