to find long names annoying?

(75 Posts)
fallingsun Mon 12-Nov-12 10:08:03

well not long names per se, just parents who insist their child be called Frederick instead of Fred or Freddie, Alexandra instead of Al or Alex. Fair enough, they get to choose the name, but the indisters of the unabbreviated names always seem very pretentious and their children often precocious 'oh maximillian just got an 'A' in ancient Greek and he's only five, he's very advanced you see'.

Aibu? Disclaimer, this thread is light hearted!

DefiniteMaybe Mon 12-Nov-12 10:10:53

YANBU, but it is irritating when people try to shorten my ds name. It is 5 letters and doesn't shorten easily but people still insist on doing it.

mrskeithrichards Mon 12-Nov-12 10:12:41

So you lay into people's name choices but it's ok, because you're being lighthearted? hmm

Anyway I have two boys with 'nicknames' according to mumsnet but do I give a shit?

Nah.

fallingsun Mon 12-Nov-12 10:18:18

I don't mean don't have the full name on the birth certificate, just that insisting on no abbreviations in the playground etc is pretentious.

FreudiansSlipper Mon 12-Nov-12 10:21:23

No as my name is my name not the shortened version which is horrible i have corrected people from a young age. Ds name is never shortened either

mrskeithrichards Mon 12-Nov-12 10:21:35

Why? I called my sons the shortened version of names because I don't actually like the full versions! That's their names, nothing else.

So why should someone pick a name they love for whatever reason and then get in shortened into something they didn't call their child?

forevergreek Mon 12-Nov-12 10:22:19

Why? If its their name you should call them that if they want. The abbreviated isn't their name so why call them that unless they ask

mrskeithrichards Mon 12-Nov-12 10:23:38

It would be like people tryin to lengthen my boys names. Why? That's not their name. You may as well call him bob.

threesocksmorgan Mon 12-Nov-12 10:23:50

isn't it up to the child?
I have a "long" name. as a child I was called by it, as a teen I got my mates to use my preferred shortened version.

DappyHays Mon 12-Nov-12 10:24:50

DH had a schoolpal called Daniel. When they went to the door and asked the mum if "Dan" was coming out to play, she would reply "there's no Dan living here" and shut the door in their faces.

I think that's taking it a bit too far.

Both my kids have 9 letter names, with 5 letter nicknames which everyone uses. Is that okay with you OP? grin

ChunkyPickle Mon 12-Nov-12 10:27:58

Bah, I have a long name (well, no, it's not, it's 3 syllables, 9 letters) and I hate it being shortened. You can virtually say the name in 2 syllables anyhow, so please, please don't cut it off half way - it'll be a mark against you - two marks - one for being lazy, and one for not listening when I said what my name was.

Asking someone to use a child's proper name is the exact opposite of pretentious.

ChunkyPickle Mon 12-Nov-12 10:30:25

mrskeithrichards - EXACTLY - my son has a name that a lot of people try to lengthen (even though it is a real, honest to god, full name in its current form) - it's not his name, why on earth would I be fine about people calling him that (not that I attack them for it, but it is annoying)

singinggirl Mon 12-Nov-12 10:31:29

I don't like it when the parents go against shorts the children are happy with - I once had a girl in my class who was known as a short by her friends, and who told me she preferred that. Her parents complained because I used the short in class at her request - even though when talking to them, in reports etc. I used her full name. Children's own opinions are valid - just because you get to choose their name when they are a newborn doesn't mean they cannot have an opiion when they are older!

Tenderisthenight Mon 12-Nov-12 10:32:26

This does annoy me actually. The name is not the parent's property so if the child doesn't mind the shortened version then there should be no issue. It is a mine field of Isabelles and Izzys out there. I particularly dislike it when parents bring up other children on the issue. Between friends people, including children, can call each other whatever they like as long as they're all happy with the situation.

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 12-Nov-12 10:33:01

Well I think people with shortened names sound rough as an old nail.

I frequently hear 'oi max ger ere, you little twat' or words to that affect.

* disclaimer- I don't really, just wanted to join in op's name slagging off game *

ChaoticismyLife Mon 12-Nov-12 10:33:49

Surely it should be up to the person whose name it is whether or not it is shortened.

My DS has a name that is a short version of a longer name. I wouldn't expect people to start using the long version as that's not his name, so if a person wants their full name using, not a shortened version, then that's what people should call them. It doesn't make them pretentious.

My DD has a name that can, and is, shortened but that's her choice.

JenFawkes Mon 12-Nov-12 10:35:45

If you met someone and they said their name is Catherine, do you not think it is rude to then call them Cath? If they want to be referred to as Cath then they will tell you that.

I hate it when people call me Jenny. It is a horrid girly name and I have never been a Jenny. I find it incredibly rude when other people think they can just ignore what I say and do their own thing.

Sokmonsta Mon 12-Nov-12 10:52:12

Yabu. 3 of my 4 dc's have names which could be shortened. But we liked the long name which is why they are legally known by those. If, when they are old enough, they choose to use an abbreviation that's their choice. But until then I will not tolerate a shortening of their names. The 4th has a name which gets lengthened into a nickname. I detest it and gave bil short shrift when he asked if he was going to be know as Jimbo. No. He's James. Why lengthen it? If he wants to be J, or Jamie when he gets older, it's his choice. But until then it is mine.

Fwiw people often assume my name is short for another, or hyphenated with my middle name. It's not. I hate the assumptions people make when you introduce yourself as x and immediately call you y. It's belittling and shows you don't much listen or respect the person.

CheerMum Mon 12-Nov-12 10:55:59

My dd's name gets lengthened! her name is Grace but people tend to call her Gracie! Personally, I like to call her Mooshalena.

vvviola Mon 12-Nov-12 10:56:12

DappyHays my Mum used to do that with me, but it was totally unintentional - my name can be shortened to a boys name, so if someone rang and asked for e.g. George, she'd say there was no George living there. Wouldn't occur to her that they meant Georgina!hmm

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 12-Nov-12 11:02:44

YABU I'm afraid. My name is pretty long and deliberately (thanks Mum and Dad) impossible to shorten - many have tried but none have succeeded. So if you're hacked off with long names, I've got no chance.

quoteunquote Mon 12-Nov-12 11:06:40

I hate it when some people shorten my name, people for some reason think that another name that sounds a little bit like the first part of my name is acceptable.

I have an unusual but well known old name, which when introduced to someone for the first time, I don't have to repeat,everyone has heard it before,but never met anyone with it as a name, it easy to say, but for some reason every now and then, someone thinks that I will respond to another name they have decided is the shortened version of mine,

I usually just ask who they are talking about, and if they have done it before, make up a shortened version of their name.

sashh Mon 12-Nov-12 11:09:41

You lot need to take a trip to Australia.

Australians always shortn names, unliess you actually can't, then they add a letter, hence Johno.

I've used the shortened version of my name for 30 years. I even did the deedpoll and have it on my passport, driviing licence etc.

My mum still calls me the longwinded name.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Mon 12-Nov-12 11:17:36

My mum is generally a mild mannered janitor, but woe betide anyone who shortens her name, Tessa, to Tess. It's like someone just woke Satan from his afternoon nap.

I dont mind friends shortening my name (although at 2 syllables it's hardly an effort to say it) but if it's someone I don't really know, it does slightly pee me off, especially if it's someone I'm not super keen on anyway.

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