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AIBU?

DH, DS and Xbox.

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tory79 · 10/11/2012 13:00

Dh thinks nothing of putting the Xbox on and playing for ages on halo while ds (14 months) is toddling round sting in the lounge. (we don't have a playroom - that's where all his toys are) I HATE it. I know ds doesn't 'understand' but it feels so wrong to me. Dh thinks its fine and I'm just trying to be annoying and previous.

AIBU?

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MrsCantSayAnything · 10/11/2012 13:05

I think playing on an X Box for hours is wrong anyway....I think if he is playing violent games then you need to set it up in the bedroom or somewhere your son is not going to see it. YANBU>

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tory79 · 10/11/2012 13:07

Sorry sting = playing and previous = precious!

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squeakytoy · 10/11/2012 13:08

Halo isnt the same as COD though, is it?

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tory79 · 10/11/2012 13:11

He has cod too Smile

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Trifle · 10/11/2012 13:16

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book.

He's teaching his child that to spend endless hours on a mindless activity whilst ignoring those around them is perfectly acceptable.

I'm puzzled as to why you have an x-box if you dont have a teenager in the house, oh hang, on you do, your dh.

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TeWiDoesTheHulaInHawaii · 10/11/2012 13:16

If it's violent or has bad language in it needs to be away from your DS. He is not old enough to understand, but is old enough to find it upsetting, have bad dreams etc.

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IneedAsockamnesty · 10/11/2012 13:17

Yanbu.

But don't put it in the bedroom as he will just play it up there and probably won't care about you trying to get to sleep.

Is he banging on about black ops. 2 as well?

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Gumby · 10/11/2012 13:20

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book.

Are you always that narrow minded about other people's hobbies?

Perhaps he hates you being on mumsnet?

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Gumby · 10/11/2012 13:22

I know loads of people who have x boxes , ps3s etc
Better than sitting in a pub every night or on mumsnet drinking a bottle of wine like some of us

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mrskeithrichards · 10/11/2012 13:30

Oh come on not every gamer is a loser! There's parents now off a generation where we grew up with gaming.

However, op, your dh is being unreasonable engrossing himself in any game whilst ds is about.

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tory79 · 10/11/2012 13:38

I don't mind him playing in general, he enjoys it and finds it relaxing, and he works hard all week etc, but surely it's not too much to ask that he keeps it to the evening when ds is in bed and I am on mumsnet

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TidyDancer · 10/11/2012 13:42

I think you need to curb it now so it doesn't keep happening when your DS is old enough to know what's going on. That's when you've begun to lose the battle.

I also have nothing against computer games and will occasionally sit and play on the xbox, but not when the DCs are around, and especially not something violent/not age appropriate on the odd occasion they are still up when it's on.

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andallthatjargon · 10/11/2012 13:43

Playing those games, fine if he wants to, after children's bedtime not before. I don't drink wine until after bedtime :D

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MikeLitoris · 10/11/2012 13:50

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book

Hmm what an idiotic comment.

Op if you dont have somewhere else the xbox can be set up then he should be waiting until ds is in bed.

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FobblyWoof · 10/11/2012 14:07

DP has an xbox and to be honest he very rarely plays it when DD is awake and when he does violent games are an absolute no-no. She's 9 months and this has been in effect from when she was a few months old.

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Tryharder · 10/11/2012 14:15

YANBU. I would not be happy if DH played any kind of violent computer game let alone in front of our toddler.

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KenLeeeeeee · 10/11/2012 14:18

YANBU, even at 14/15 months a baby will absorb what's going on around him or her. Violent movies and/or games are a no-no in this house while kids are around.

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BertieBotts · 10/11/2012 14:20

Neither DP or myself play age-rated games (above a PG or 7) around DS. It's always been the rule even when I was with XP and DS was under 1.

You wouldn't watch a violent horror film with them in the room, so why would you play inappropriate games?

Your DP sounds selfish, though. Nothing to do with computer games - he could be just as selfish if he had another all-consuming hobby (or addiction - they can be addictive) which he pursued to the exclusion of all else.

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DrWhoBrain · 10/11/2012 14:30

dont see the big deal tbh your ds is too young to be aware of anything as long as their is no bad language. Dh plays any of his games while ds 13 months is playing nearby but not if ds1 who is 7 is around as he IS aware.

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mrskeithrichards · 10/11/2012 14:35

I do watch horrors during the day when ds1 is at school and it's just me and 6m old snuggled up.

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fuzzpig · 10/11/2012 14:41

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book.

I'm glad I'm not the only one to be Hmm about that! Nothing wrong with a bit of gaming (though I can't stand COD etc myself due to violence - prefer puzzle/platform etc) if it is just a hobby! No more mindless than watching a bit of telly surely.

But playing violent games for hours on end, when your little one is able to see it, rather than actually interacting with said child, yes of course that makes you a total loser, IMO.

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VonHerrBurton · 10/11/2012 17:56

Trifle was a bit harsh with the 'loser' comment, but tbh, if my DH would rather sit twiddling with an Xbox than play with our DS I would find that a bit weird. And teenager-like. Sorry.

playing for ages on Halo Hmm

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MrsCantSayAnything · 10/11/2012 17:59

It IS a bit sad for a grown man to sit mindlessly killing fake people on a computer or whatever. it just is.

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BlueberryHill · 10/11/2012 18:37

We don't watch horror films whilst the children are awake (or at all really) and I would put COD / Halo in that category. He should wait until your DC is in bed.

I think that the sad / loser comments are really judgemental, everyone has hobbies / interests that others don't understand, including those calling others losers. I understand the gaming bug, played puzzle / platform games before DC (and then had no time whatsoever grrr) and there is a skill to it and it can be really addicitive. Its just another way to unwind.

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GhostShip · 10/11/2012 18:55

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book

Well 69% of americans are losers in your book. The average age for a gamer is 33.

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