To think I can't do this today...

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Barely had any sleep last night as both sons kept waking up. DS1 is 2.9, DS2 is 7 weeks. DS1 was supposed to go to nursery today but has been so unsettled I think is best keep him home. My mum has been over since DS2's birth but went home yesterday so am missing the support.

So AIBU to want to beg my husband to stay home today & help out as I really feel like I can't do it myself?

Well we've been to the park. Had only been there 5 minutes when DS1 announced we had to go home hmm despite nagging to go!

MIL was apparently going to call this morning to offer help but I've not heard anything. We have a bit of an awkward relationship so I don't really want to call her.

Is it wine o' clock yet?

MaryZezItsOnlyJustNovember Fri 09-Nov-12 13:08:02

Well done, you have got to the afternoon, so you are halfway there.

And you have been out of the house, a major achievement.

dvd's, chocolate, naps for everyone, and your dh to cook dinner. And the day will be over.

It will get easier.

WileyRoadRunner Fri 09-Nov-12 13:11:13

You can do this.

It is scary going from one to two.

Soon you will adapt to the tiredness and be able to function without opening your eyes!

There is nothing wrong with a day in front of the TV. Especially as your eldest has got his head glued together!

Heard from MIL & DS1 is going to them for a bit this afternoon so I might be able to grab some sleep after all.
Part of me feels a bit of a failure for calling in help though blush

QuickLookBusy Fri 09-Nov-12 14:17:21

Oh please don feel a failure Mrs

These first few weeks/months are the hardest with two dc. It takes a while to get used to having two Dc and to get over the birth! It's really not easy.
Your trip to A and E must have been scary too, I expect all sorts was running through your head about poor DS, you and him need time too get over that.

I expect MIL will love having your Ds for a few hours. Most Grannies do.

Have a sleep and promise not to be too hard on yourself.smile

MaryZezItsOnlyJustNovember Fri 09-Nov-12 14:20:30

Nope, you didn't know you were going to get help. And you know you would have managed if you had to. Which will make it much easier next time.

ds1 will get love and sympathy for his bang from the grandparents, you will get a break, your dh got to work. And (to add to the wonderful day), everyone is fed, no-one is dead.

It sounds like a success to me smile

katiecubs Fri 09-Nov-12 14:25:56

Grumpla did you make that up?! LOVE it.

JugglingWithPossibilities Fri 09-Nov-12 14:34:20

Never be afraid to delegate ! It's a great art grin
Have a cuppa with DS2 whilst DS1 at Grannies brew

NameGotLostInCyberspace Fri 09-Nov-12 14:39:14

Grumpla, your 1st post brought a tear to my eye. (soppy cow)! I have two and know how hard it is. Now they are 5 and 2 and you are absolutely right! smile

That's a huge difference from having someone living with you, to have a couple of hours help in the afternoon. Lucky you having parents there to help; I'm grateful for that too! Sounds like you are doing a great job!

KenLeeeeeee Fri 09-Nov-12 16:41:52

YANBU to be scared about managing by yourself, and you are not a failure for asking for help. Going from 1 to 2 kids was very scary at first, but you will find it easier bit by bit. Promise.

Journey Fri 09-Nov-12 18:48:04

I think you need to start managing on your own. You've relied too heavily on your mum. Once you've done it a few times on your own you'll get in the swing of things, rather than running to the phone for help.

Well DH is home, the boys are going to bed so I made it! Couldn't have done it without you lovely nest of vipers grin

Grumpla Fri 09-Nov-12 21:16:54

Congratulations Helsbels you did it!!!

Is everybody fed? YES!
Is nobody dead? YES!

YOU WIN!!!!!

Grumpla Fri 09-Nov-12 21:17:53

And thee is no shame in accepting help when you need it, by the way smile

addictedisback Fri 09-Nov-12 21:26:27

Congratulations! Well done, enjoy the weekend with dh and Monday will be easier, after all you've already done it once grin

Journey how old are your children? Do you have more than one? Do you remember what the early days were like? have my first biscuit

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