My Mum refuses to do anything without my Dad. As a result I never get to spend any mother - daughter time alone with her. This means although we get on really well I don't ever talk to her about personal issues as I never see her without my Dad being present and I wouldn't really talk about girly stuff / relationships etc with my Dad present as I just wouldn't feel comfortable. So I never open up to my Mum and share things I would like to share with her for example when I wAs going through a break up last year. I feel my relationship with Mum is not as strong as it could be.
I do want to spend time with my Dad too of course, but I just think sometimes it would be nice to just be me and Mum.
Sadly We live over 200 miles apart so it is not as though I could just pop round for a cup of tea when Dad is out. I have invited Mum to come and stay or just come for a day trip if she prefers but she always declines. I think the issues are twofold - first she "doesn't know what Dad would say" about us girls going off and spending time together and secondly I think she is nervous about travelling 200 miles on her own to see me. I have offered to meet her from the station, meet her halfway, pay for her train ticket, or go to her local town etc but to no avail.
She did not even come for my sister in law's hen do which was being held in the city where I live For the above reasons. Again I had offered to meet her from the train, put her back on the train at the end of the day but she still refused to come.
As well as the effect on our relationship I also worry about her lack of independence and how this might affect her if she outlives my Dad.
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To want to spend some quality mother - daughter time alone with my Mum?
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Snowflake2012 · 24/10/2012 09:21
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