To think that the ex-potential client is a complete nutbag and I haven't done anything wrong?

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Got a number of a business associate of mine to give a call to her client as they might need my services. Spoke on Sat, well left a voicemail, than she called back and left a voicemail too as I didn't hear it. she said it would be great to have a chat in the evening. that was early-ish afternoon.

at 6ish I texted her that I would only be able to talk after 8.30pm and asked whether it's not too late. No response, OK I thought. she's busy. Then at 7.30pm I texted again saying I actually finished earlier and can call now but asked what she prefers. No response. I know there were some issues with the network she was on so I assumed that was it.

I thought she'd get in touch on Monday and I didn't want to bombard with trying to get through to her. Called just now on the work number, someone who sounded like her picked up and claimed no memory of us speaking earlier and quickly finished our conversation. She said her name was not Jane (made up name).

1) I'm sure it was her. She's the main person in the office.
2) What the hell did I do wrong?
3) Why couldn't she just say, tahnks but no thanks, we don't need you anymore?

I think i had a lucky escape there but what else could have I done differently? confused. She sounded older so maybe that's it (different expectations re texting etiquette?) but still...

I wasn't pushing business!!! She told me to call. I physically couldn't. She gave me the landline to call. Do you get it? Pmease sime one explain how was I to let her know I couldn't call? How is that being pushy? I was accommodating to her. Don't you think it's unprofessional to not call when you said you would?

YellowRiver Wed 17-Oct-12 08:13:40

DrinkFeck, Sounds to me like you did the right thing, and the whole situation seems odd at their end. Obviously something has gone on behind the scenes that you don't know about, and they no longer need you (whether she was posing as someone else, or it actually was someone else). I'd drop it unless she gets back in touch.

Texting in business is clearly a divisive issue, but I'm with spam on this one. In my office we use skype the most. I'm also required to interact with my company's facebook page. There's nothing wrong with using modern technology (considerately) to further your business.

Drcrab I share your problem. Particularly via LinkedIn where I'm getting constant invites from headhunters who seem to be just broadening their list of connections without any real insight into what I do. 'I have a client looking for someone with your skills...' 'Great, let's talk!' <<silence>> Aargh
Glad it's not just me...

drcrab Wed 17-Oct-12 08:18:41

yellowriver infuriating isn't it? Mine wasn't through LinkedIn though. Somehow he'd found me through some recommendation from someone.... But still v rude. They looked v respectable too as a head hunters firm!!!

Softlysoftly Wed 17-Oct-12 08:21:48

Actually if you retread the latest posts not one says you were pushy or excessive. They all say text wasn't the right medium in this case however, which is something that you guessed in your op so why the shock?

Fwiw in your situation I wouldn't have called on a Saturday in the first place as its not a working day, I know when you work for yourself every days a working day and it's easy to slip into thinking everyone is the same, but they aren't if they hold formal business hours (until you know them and know they are flexible).

If I had called her and she left a message back specifying a time I couldn't do, I would call her at the next time convenient to me and apologise you weren't available. She was punting you would be, there was no expectation that you would be iyswim. Sometimes it's easy to try and be accommodating (which is a good thing) but trip up in your eagerness (eg by using text to do so) when in actuality it would have been better to wait. An example I would give is leaping in with an answer at interview when taking the time to think things out thoroughly would be more productive.

None of that means she isn't a dick for pretending to be someone else and you are better off without the contract btw!

Bilbobagginstummy Wed 17-Oct-12 08:51:01

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HongKongPhooy Wed 17-Oct-12 09:19:53

whether text is appropriate or not, is a bit secondary to potential client pretending she isnt herself and claiming no knowledge of OP, isnt it?! confused

Anyway, I did the best I could in the situ and if she thinks it was unacceptable then it's her problem.

Funnily enough, I started a thread recently about potential clients texting me late at night and on Sunday asking about business and even botherung to apologise. Yes, I get the text thing in the business if you are getting un contact for the first tome.

Anyway, off to find a lighthearted thread do some work.

Spamspamspam Wed 17-Oct-12 12:43:03

ZOMB please direct me to where I mentioned anything at all about "mummies" I am very confused about your assumption of my opinion I didn't realise you had access to my thoughts?

As a parent and also having a brain I have managed to work out this is a parenting forum thank you. "whispers" you do realise that both parents can have professional careers don't you?

cumfy Wed 17-Oct-12 15:16:14

Why didn't your business associate just recommend you and give them your contact details ?

Sounds like she solved the problem she had.

spondulix Wed 17-Oct-12 15:37:37

I think it's fine to text but you said that she needed you - if that was the case she would've got in touch with you.

I think you scared her off, but I think she was being unprofessional pretending to be someone else (if it really was her on the phone) and should've been honest with you.

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