To be a bit narked about this party

[StrangeGlue]

oh my first AIBU....eek!

My friend and her sister are having a join 35th party. It's a train journey away (£72) and obviously I'll get her a present.

The invite has arrived and I have to take my own food and drink!

They both work and they're having the party in their well-off parents back garden (so no venue hire costs) so am I being unreasonable to think they could be supplying at least the food if not also the drink?

[HumphreyCobbler]

I could not host a party and expect everyone to bring the food.

[WelshMaenad]

Fuck that for a troupe of badgers.

Send her a card and a £10 Asda gift voucher and suggest she treats her guests to a bottle of Cava.

[BumpingFuglies]

Drink yes, food no. Tight-arses

[Ragwort]

Perhaps the food and drink is instead of a present? I have been invited to parties where it is specifically stated not to give gifts but donations of food/drink appreciated; however it is obviously difficult to lug a few bottles and a plate of sandwiches on a train ride .

You could always decline the invitation, doesn't sound much of a party to me !

[StrangeGlue]

It doesn't say no presents on the invite though.

Ah, I'm in a grump about it to be honest but if I don't go I'm unlikely to see her for ages.

[TheOneWithTheHair]

I think not doing food is odd. YANBU

[SugariceAndScary]

YANBU, how stingey!

A train ticket with food and booze on top, not sure I'd want to pay that much for a 35th party.

Will everyone need to line up to heat their own bought food in the microwave and oven? Perish the thought!

[squoosh]

Tighter than a cat's bum hole.

Some people have such a feckin' cheek.

[WorraLiberty]

Bloody hell what a tight pair!

I wonder if the birds have to bring their own water and seeds to the bird table?

[fraserboysmum]

IMO you're right to be in a grump, i was the same a few years back when my SIL invited us to theirs for New Years ( a four hour drive away) ... when i offered to buy some booze to take with us she said " no, what i'll do is work out how much i've spent on food and alcohol while you've been with us as i want to push the boat out and so i'll send you the bill for half afterwards" some hospitality ! We didn't go in the end ....

[lynniep]

thats just wierd. dont go.

[StrangeGlue]

Fraser that is worse!

I just don't get it, I always lay on food and drink and assume big drinkers will bring extra if they want to.

It's the food that gets me really.

Ah good to vent!

[HipHopOpotomus]

Providing guests with food at a party is pretty basic behaviour. They sound v tight. I probably wouldn't go unless it was a really fun crowd.

Is it food to share? (have image of each guest wearing a backpack with their own bottle and bags of crips in)

[starfishmummy]

Party in the garden at this time of year?????
they must be mad!

[StrangeGlue]

Yes the invite says to wear warm clothes! I'm hoping I'm allowed inside to the loo!

[HipHopOpotomus]

they've probably spent the food budget on portaloos!

[TheOneWithTheHair]

It gets stranger by the second. It sounds miserable to me. :(
Don't bother going.

[Alligatorpie]

Doesn't sound like much if a party. I would probably come down with a last minute illness ( cause i am a wimp and wouldn't want to tell her why I wasn't coming)

[Alligatorpie]

Of

[Mypopcornface]

Get sick and don't go.

[squeaver]

I'm curious to know what the invitation said. Was it as blatant as "please bring your own food and drink"?

You'd think they could stretch to a few bags of Hula Hoops, wouldn't you?

[Littlemissimpatient]

I'd make an excuse, send her a card and suggest you both go out for dinner one night near you or somewhere half way

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

YANBU, they are basically having an outside house party in the freezing cold I'd decline the invitation.

[Viviennemary]

They have got a bit of a nerve. I think I might have other plans if I were you. And in a back garden in this weather. Will anybody go?