DS just 15 playing CoD at his dad's

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

I'm genuinely not sure about this. I really hate 1st person shooter games as my exH knows. I found out today that he has Call of Duty on the playstation that he plays when his younger brothers have gone to bed, but this weekend it was his birthday so he and his friends were playing this when his just 13 yo brother who has autism was around as was his 10 yo youngest brother. I have told my exH that I'm horrified and will be taking legal advice.

So, AIBU? My 15 yo certainly thinks so, but he would, wouldn't he?

[MadgeHarvey]

Legal advice? Seriously?

I'd write more but I'm afraid I've pissed myself laughing.

[FredFredGeorge]

Your exH sets the rules when he has them, fair enough to have a view and to discuss it with him so you have a coherent parenting but there's nothing illegal about doing it, so legal advice will get you nowhere and just makes you look stupid and doesn't get your further forward on that.

YABU.

[WorraLiberty]

Legal advice ffs

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

My legal advice may run to asking MN, TBH, but it sounded good. I'm sorry but my DS2 with SN should not be exposed to this stuff.

[monkeysbignuts]

fair enough about the youngest but I done and watched a lot worse than cod at 15.
I think your over reacting. have you tried talking to ex p first?

[SauvignonBlanche]

YABVU

[mum11970]

My 14 yr old plays CoD, it's not going to turn him into a mass murderer.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

I don't talk to exH just text or email. However shittily he has behaved towards me, I thought his parenting was OK. I'm not bothered too much by the 15 yo, it's the fact that his brothers were 9 and 12 when he bought this and the middle DS has autism. This means he struggles to separate fact and fiction.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

Just because others let their DC play 18 games, doesn't make it right. I would have thought he'd be especially careful around DS2.

[TidyGOLDDancer]

Well legal advice is a massive step too far, but I wouldn't be happy about any child playing CoD, it's horrific.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

I did say legal advice would mean asking MN.

[ddubsgirl]

all mine play it,its a game,they know its not real.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

Do all of yours have autism?

[McHappyPants2012]

my Ds has austism, but that doesn't mean DD has to suffer because of it.

When your DS dad has the children he sets the rules, you can try to compromise but ultamitly he has the final say. At the age of 15 legally DS can just go and live with his dad.

[RubyFakeNails]

I think the 15 year old playing it is fine.

I think that the others being around seems to be a one-time incident? For his birthday? Which you have pointed out, its not the norm.

So you can mention to ex you are really not happy with younger ones being exposed to it.

Wait and see if it happens again.

It seems he normally waits until younger ones are in bed and is therefore responsible so whats the issue?

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

I suppose I was shocked that even DS1 was playing it TBH, as it's not something I would allow until he's older, but I appreciate I may be in a minority about that. Realistic 1st person shooter games are horrible IMO, and they are rated 18 for a reason. But it's the exposure to them by the younger and more vulnerable of my DC that really upset me.

[IneedAsockamnesty]

playing a game rated above your age or being in the room whilst it is playing is not against the law.

i shouldnt fret about it as it was a birthday so not an everyday thing.

if your that concerned about your autistic childs exposure to this 13 is probally a very good age to start doing additional fact/fiction work with him as hes getting to the age where he will be exposed to things away from you and may need support to deal with it