in not allowing my ex to let my 5yr old daughter talk to her death row boyfriend on the phone

(116 Posts)
munkiboy1971 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:00:57

She's been 'involved' with death row inmates since we split 2 yaers ago. She's sent pictures of our kids to them before and I asked her not to involve them in her relationships before now but I recently found out that she was allowing our youngest daughter to talk to her latest squeeze when he calls (using his illegally held mobile phone which inadvertanly have been paying for with the money I give to her for the kids).
It creeps me out to know she's been doing this and I've asked for a signed letter to say she's not going to do it again.
She's a pretty fancy piece of work but I really don't understand how even she can possibly think that what she is doing is in any way right.

Wow. Surely you know YANBU.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 10-Oct-12 22:04:19

Really munkiboy?

PickledFanjoCat Wed 10-Oct-12 22:05:41

Depends on the crime. Who is her latest squeeze?

DowagersHump Wed 10-Oct-12 22:06:00

biscuit

SoupDragon Wed 10-Oct-12 22:06:19

hmm

munkiboy1971 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:07:02

Really. I didn't make this up. I wish I had.

joanofarchitrave Wed 10-Oct-12 22:08:14

Get legal advice.

squoosh Wed 10-Oct-12 22:08:26

It depends.

Did he kill loads of people or just a few?

munkiboy1971 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:08:57

Death row murderer type.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 10-Oct-12 22:09:01

Ok.

So have you applied for residency of your children as their mother doesn't sound like she's doing a great job?

aldiwhore Wed 10-Oct-12 22:09:05

I'm terribly sorry I don't really understand the phrase "she's a pretty fancy piece of work"? - like a table? Or something complex? Or fit?

Obviously children shouldn't be dragged into it.

I would seek legal advice.

YANBU for being concerned... I would be.

CrikeyOHare Wed 10-Oct-12 22:09:15

I wrote a poem once about my death row boyfriend. Want a read?

As I stand here on this magic day
My heart is all a flutter
You really are quite handsome
For such a raving nutter
I know we've never met before
Our love has been online
But one glance at your mugshot
and I had to make you mine
Perhaps you thought I'd be put off
When I found out what you'd done
But few of us are perfect
And those that are just ain't no fun
You're due to fry on Sunday
When they take you to the chair
But please don't worry, darling
You'll look great with spiky hair
I'll love you till the end of time
Dear Prisoner 467
I'll think of you, down there in Hell
Cos I doubt you'll be in Heaven.

Moving, or what?

PickledFanjoCat Wed 10-Oct-12 22:09:45

I'd be ok with it if it was less than 5 or 6.

PickledFanjoCat Wed 10-Oct-12 22:10:32

Crikey, that's beautiful, man.

ScaryBeardyCandyman Wed 10-Oct-12 22:11:11

I read this as your 5yo has a boyfriend on death row...

munkiboy1971 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:11:38

I am now crying.

OnwardBound Wed 10-Oct-12 22:12:34

hmm

If this is for real I second the posters saying you need to get legal advice.

CrikeyOHare Wed 10-Oct-12 22:13:30

See, Munki, I told you my poem would move you wink

GhostofMammaTJ Wed 10-Oct-12 22:14:14

OP, print out a copy of Crikeys poem for her to use. She would love that.

DowagersHump Wed 10-Oct-12 22:14:27

Honestly, I'm moved to tears too Crikey.

munkiboy1971 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:15:19

I have spoken to NSPCC who have said it's not a child protection issue. Does anyone know where I stand legally?

PickledFanjoCat Wed 10-Oct-12 22:15:27

Well if you want her back you know what you have to do...

IneedAgoldenNickname Wed 10-Oct-12 22:15:52

I read this as your 5yo has a boyfriend on death row..

Me too!

PickledFanjoCat Wed 10-Oct-12 22:17:53

Detention is getting well harsh these days!

There's no need to kill em!

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