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to think that a bottle of fortified wine is not a suitable birthday present for a recovering alcoholic?

(23 Posts)
IKnowItsMyFaultBut Wed 10-Oct-12 20:40:10

Yes the present buyer knows. Yes the addict is an adult and doesn't have to drink it but....

angry

hermioneweasley Wed 10-Oct-12 20:41:19

If the giver knows, Then it is bizarre at best.

That's just awful. I enjoy a sick joke but that's in no way funny. What a bastard.

MamaMumrOrangeTheGolden Wed 10-Oct-12 20:42:14

YANBU

GrimAndHumourless Wed 10-Oct-12 20:42:55

odd and unkind

Howevers I do know that some folk think that fortified wine is somehow Good For You viz sanatogen wine

IKnowItsMyFaultBut Wed 10-Oct-12 20:45:35

Not tonic wine.

Glad it's not just me that thinks this is insane.

LFCisTarkaDahl Wed 10-Oct-12 20:46:22

That's incredibly insensitive.

hoopieghirl Wed 10-Oct-12 20:48:19

Its disrespectful amd crass in the extreme

MummyPig24 Wed 10-Oct-12 20:48:52

Inappropriate and insensitive. Totally ridiculous.

Lilka Wed 10-Oct-12 20:52:39

How cruel and insensitive. YADNBU shock

IKnowItsMyFaultBut Wed 10-Oct-12 20:55:31

The argument being - that it's her favorite but she doesn't have to drink it....

How does anybody get better with this kind of sabotage? Urgh.

Numberlock Wed 10-Oct-12 20:55:59

So who bought it for who? Thinking there's more to this?

foslady Wed 10-Oct-12 22:09:25

Oh
My
God

What a twunt..............suggest you give them it back and tell them your present to said RA is the gift of their life..........

BlueSkySinking Wed 10-Oct-12 22:57:26

Return it and just say no thanks

Really mean and YANBU.

whatsoever Wed 10-Oct-12 23:04:01

Horrendous.

fatlazymummy Wed 10-Oct-12 23:13:27

You are definitely NBU.
In this situation I would return the 'gift', or alternatively pour it down the sink. I might also want to ask the 'giver' what their motive was.

FarloWearsAGoldRibbon Wed 10-Oct-12 23:15:01

Dreadful sad

fatlazymummy Wed 10-Oct-12 23:19:09

Thinking about it, this used to happen to a friend of mine. Her [now ex] boyfreind used to give her bottles of her favourite drink ,as she was struggling to deal with her drinking problem. He was a recovering alcoholic himself, yet for some reason he didn't really want her to be sober.
OP if you are the recovering alcoholic then I would suggest you take a close look at this relationship. This person doesn't have your interests at heart.

Numberlock Thu 11-Oct-12 05:43:45

That's why I asked for details. Could have been perfectly innocent eg much older relative who thinks recovering alcoholic means the person is 'better;' or it could have been malicious. You need to enlighten us OP.

anonacfr France Thu 11-Oct-12 18:45:30

It's her favourite but she doesn't have to drink it????? What kind of a twisted argument is that? Talk about adding insult to injury.

Ephiny Thu 11-Oct-12 18:54:52

Do you think they did it on purpose as some kind of weird joke or to sabotage the person's recovery? Or was it just a thoughtless/insensitive choice?

Either way, sounds a pretty stupid thing to do.

McHappyPants2012 Thu 11-Oct-12 19:10:37

I very insensitive thing to give as a gift.

When she gives it away, that will be a huge boost to her confidence.

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