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to ask who has had botox or fillers or plastic surgery of some kind?

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wrinklesandproud Tue 09-Oct-12 19:55:08

(namechanged for this).

I can honestly say that having any of the above has never entered my mind. I'll be 40 next year. I have some wrinkles on my forehead, a neck that seems to be looking increasingly wobbly and wrinkly, and crinkles all round my eyes. But I just thought that was what happened as you got older. No-one I knew until very recently has ever had any 'work done'. Botox was something you read about in Grazia magazine.

But we've moved recently to a new area and (public) school and it seems that with the people where we live it is the norm to go for regular botox and/or fillers and/or other surgery from boob jobs to liposuction. This is discussed the same way buying a new dress would be chatted about over coffee. For the first time in my life I feel as though I am the odd woman out for just going au natural. I am starting to be swayed by their way of thinking, whereas previously I never could have imagined me having any of this stuff done.

So I'm just curious to know how many mumsnetters have either had any of these things done (if so what) and if not, would you consider it?

I sort of feel as though having stuff done is cheating, but if you're the only sucker not cheating, you end up as the loser.

thenightsky Tue 09-Oct-12 19:56:49

I would, but I'm scared I'll just look more freaky.

SoleSource Tue 09-Oct-12 20:07:31

Do mpt see anything wrong with either. It is snobbery/ jealousy.

CackleMeIAmYours Tue 09-Oct-12 20:08:02

I have fillers and have also had cosmetic surgery.

I do get your point about 'cheating' but then the same can be said for all skincare/make up/hair dye/clothing choices. Where do you draw the line?

I'm happy with my choices and will probably have further surgery as I age. You only get one shot at life and I intend to at least attempt to look as good as I can for as long as I can.

Everyone's different though; there's nothing remotely unreasonable about your viewpoint.

Charliefox Tue 09-Oct-12 20:13:27

Have had Botox and fillers.

AngryBeaver Tue 09-Oct-12 20:13:50

You just do what feels right for you! Nothing wrong with getting some "help" nothing wrong with aging gracefully. Whatever you feel happy with.
I have had a ittle dabble,and I am 34. I have always been concerned with appearance <shallow> but that is just me.
I had light filler done when I was 33 in my nose to mouth lines. Not because I needed it (particularly) then, but because if you leave it unti lit gets really deep, it is harder to conceal. Prevention is better than cure,IFYSIM?
I haven't done anything since,but I do look after my skin.
I have recently purchased some Hyraluronic Acid by Timeless,off Amazon. It's really good! Just a serum you rub in after cleansing.
Give that a try?
But more importantly, if you are happy with what you see in the mirror, who gives a monkey's what others are sticking in their faces?!

AngryBeaver Tue 09-Oct-12 20:15:59

Oh btw, I didn't tell a soul about my filler. Not my best friend, hiusband...no one! So if you did fancy "cheating" you don't have to broadcast it like the other mums at the school gate. I certainly don't.

SoleSource Tue 09-Oct-12 20:17:37

Cheating what exactly? Strange way of looking at it. Is washing clothes, treatments for cancer etc cheating too?

Do the fillers hurt?

wrinklesandproud Tue 09-Oct-12 20:25:46

Angrybeaver - that's why I'm asking. because I am starting to think that maybe a LOT more women have it done but don't admit to it leaving me to think that perhaps I've just drunk more wine than them hence my wrinkles vs theirs.

SoleSource Tue 09-Oct-12 20:30:36

I don't have wrinkles and I am almost 39.

SoleSource Tue 09-Oct-12 20:41:11

Do filler injections hurt?

Does tbe filler feel lime a noticable foreign substance I side yoyr skin?

Can you feel the filler when moving tbe skun with fingertips?

Please tell me smile

Sorry OP smile

Bingdweller Tue 09-Oct-12 20:52:02

I work in this industry. The only thing I will say to anyone considering having anything done is do your research. And when you have finished doing your research, do some more! Please don't consider going abroad and look for personal or GP recommendation.

Always use a medical consultant with BAAPS or BAPRS membership and who preferably holds a current NHS post. Be prepared to pay for a consultation, never see a sales adviser in lieu of a consultant, feel comfortable with the clinic/hospital, ask loads of questions, ask to see the particular surgeons work (before and after photos) and ask for a free appointment with the specialist nurse adviser.

Go with a company who guarantees they will look after you in the event of complications arising from surgery the recent PIP scandal outed a lot of rogue companies. If you are considering breast enlargement, ask the company what their policy was recently concerning PIP replacements.

Above all, reputation of the company and surgeon are utmost. A good surgeon will always tell you if they are unable to meet your expectations or if you are unsuitable for surgery.

CackleMeIAmYours Tue 09-Oct-12 20:52:08

Yes they hurt (even with the numbing gel) I'd give it a 7/10 on the pain scale, but it is very short lasting.

No, it doesn't feel any different afterwards, just no more wrinkle.

BellaTata Tue 09-Oct-12 20:57:06

I have botox and lip fillers every 6months and am currently looking in to plastic surgery. Fillers can be painful but it's not too bad. No pain no gain.

KenDoddsDadsDog Tue 09-Oct-12 20:57:38

Have had Botox since I was about 31 - a miracle treatment for me. But 8 years on I find I'm looking tired when I need it done again so it's now also cosmetic. I have always spoken freely about having it done. I'm not sure about fillers but have seen people who have had it done really well.
A girl I know ha just had some fillers to help with some dog bite scars on her face and it looks terrific.

KenDoddsDadsDog Tue 09-Oct-12 21:00:46

Sorry , should have said for migraine smile

Charliefox Tue 09-Oct-12 21:05:35

Botox doesn't hurt really, just a bit like plucking yr eyebrows - a bit of a pinch. Fillers hurts a bit more. I've only had it once, about a year ago, on my nose to mouth lines. Yes, you can feel the substance in yr skin, it feels a bit like a squishy ridge but it settles and gets better as the weeks and months go on. I've also had a breast reduction.

Jacksmania Tue 09-Oct-12 21:18:09

I've had Botox between my eyebrows. The deep line there got a little too scary-looking for me a few years ago.

I've also had lip filler done. I broke my nose back in 1996, and had a tiny bit of nerve damage from the repair surgery, and the right side of my upper lip started drooping and thinning quite noticeably a few years ago. It was most apparent in pictures. I had it filled and it made a world of difference wrt the symmetry of my lips. I'm very happy I did it and will have it done again when the filler wears off. I didn't find it hurt very much at all. I had the freezing gel, but the Dr I saw had to put a bit of filler in a spot that hadn't frozen, and it was nothing.

BlueSkySinking Tue 09-Oct-12 21:22:07

Retin-A for fine lines here. Works a treat.

Kewcumber Tue 09-Oct-12 21:25:27

I didn't start developing fine lines until my mid-forties which is fine by me. I don't scare the neighbours which is also good. I form keloid scares and I would be too worried that I ended up with worse scarring than the relatively inoccuos face/body I started with.

Don;t much care if anyone else does it though.

Kewcumber Tue 09-Oct-12 21:27:00

"No pain no gain."

Yeah well I have a different motto...

No pain, no pain

perplexedpirate Tue 09-Oct-12 21:35:51

I have had cosmetic surgery and Botox. I am 34 and look pretty hot. Not traffic stopping, but good.
I'm sure I'll have more procedures as I age.
I like looking good, so shoot me. smile

chipsandpeas Tue 09-Oct-12 21:37:05

im 35 and had botox - only 1 person knows (and i was pissed when i told her lol) and no one has noticed any different...well if they have they havent mentioned anything to me but i obviously notice a difference, but if someone looked at me they wouldnt necessarily think its botox maybe just the way i have done my make up

waterlego Tue 09-Oct-12 22:00:46

Kewcumber, I LOVE that.

I haven't and I won't. I don't give a shite what people think of my appearance. I look entirely average and every bit of my 35 years but it doesn't bother me at all. I think all that stuff is a bit vain.

Kewcumber Tue 09-Oct-12 22:02:47

I'm 47 - I probably look about 40. I tell everyone I am 57 and they think I look bloody marvellous grin Cheaper than plastic surgery (which is my other reason for not having it)

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