To think that long hair on young boys.......

(324 Posts)
Haahoostory Sun 07-Oct-12 10:57:37

Is unfair on the child. It dangles in their face and gets in their way and must be really annoying for them. With girls you can clip it back or tie it up in pretty styles so no problem at all. It is the parents imposing their tastes and choices on the child - rather like when toddlers have pierced ears. Older boys with long hair absolutely fine - as they have chosen to wear it that way, but toddlers and younger boys no.

I also hate long hair on males (of any age).

Children hate getting their toe nails cut, some hate baths, but as parents we get round that.

I am about to be a Stepnan and have already had the conversation about acceptable hair length.

I told them last night that they will be getting a shaven baby handed back, should he ever come to mine with long hair grin.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:28:39

if one really wants can sterotype on both sides
would-be super liberal think they challenge social norms with long hair
short hair= illiberal phil mitchell dont be a pansy types

DS is currently sporting Justin Beiber hair with full on Hollister.

Awkward little shit that he is.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Sun 07-Oct-12 11:30:24

birds, you've seeeeeeriously got to take a step back re your grandparenting role.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:30:28

My DS2 (2yrs) gets mistaken for a girl despite me calling out his name "John, John" (disclaimer not his name) likewise my DD (8) gets mistaken for a boy despite me yelling "Jane, Jane (also not her name) this happens even when they are not together. My daughter has shoulder length blonde hair and wears jeans and hoodies but imo, still looks like a girl, and DS2 has collar length blonde hair and wears jeans and hoodies but imo looks like a boy. I don't care all that much.

BupcakesAndCunting Sun 07-Oct-12 11:32:40

Birds, you're a stepnan?! You get ZERO say in haircuts. If DS's stepnan sent him home with cut hair, I'd send her home with a split lip.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:33:17

usual DS1 had his head shaved from the ages 5-9 - his choice. Now he has short back and sides, again his choice. I try to foget about the time he tried to grow it long and instead it just grew out sideways, and not in a good way. Oh and I tried to cut my DDs hair once and inadvertently gave her a mullet. I seem to have commited all the sins of childrens hairstyles. Oh well grin

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:14

birds what a stupid attitude that just reads like old battle axe talk
if you imposed upon me you'd not see the child again.end of
granny doesnt equal do what you want and act entitled.

Tailtwister Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:29

It's personal choice isn't it? You can't help but impose some of your own tastes onto your child when they are very young. You buy their clothes, get their hair cut (or not!), decide to some extent what activities they do etc.

Personally, I don't like extremely short hair. My boys don't have long hair, but they don't have the type of hair which would suit that style. It's kind of short at the back/sides and a bit longer at the top. Pretty bog standard really.

I don't really care how other people cut their children's hair. It's their business really, just like they choose how to dress them.

InvisibleHotPinkWeasel Sun 07-Oct-12 11:35:33

You know it's ok not like certain hair styles. Regardless of the age of the child

Bit daft to dress it up as concern for the child. Lots of the boys here at ds's school tie it back for sport if it's very long snd they need to, same as the girls.

I personally dislike very very long hair on girls where it's all ratty and horrid. But I'm not going to seethe quietly and do a Daily Mail Sad Face about the poor neglected child at the hair whims of the parent.

Short, long, spiky, whatever. Tis nowt to do with me.

I'm in a cultural group that doesn't do haircuts until the age of three, so quite used to all the hair lengths on little ones. I assure you OP that the boys with long hair play just the same as boys with short hair cuts (or girls with either). And they can have their hair pulled back just the same as girls. I don't see how it is anymore unfair than any other things that all parents impose on children of that age group.

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan Sun 07-Oct-12 11:36:05

ds likes his hair tied up in pink bobbles. hmm

perhaps it is something to do with having a big sister grin

PickledFanjoCat Sun 07-Oct-12 11:36:08

God birds yes I'd drop the nut on you I think.

I like little boys with longish hair. They've time enough to get it shaved.

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:37:24

lol bupcakes, my sentiments exactly
and kids would be told granny not visiting again .ever
id hire a nice aupair who wouldnt cut the hair.no jip.unlike granny

Is that your way of telling them you don't want to be called on to babysit Birds

"I am about to be a Stepnan and have already had the conversation about acceptable hair length.

I told them last night that they will be getting a shaven baby handed back, should he ever come to mine with long hair grin. "

shock

I'm not one of those who is "livid" when MIL cuts DS's hair without asking (which she has done - I as unimpressed but on balance not going to have a tantrum as the kids love her and she has them over night each school holiday, which we appreciate) but in what way is this your place?

Tailtwister Sun 07-Oct-12 11:38:10

Wow Birds. Glad you aren't in my family. If you were, you certainly wouldn't be getting your hands on my children!

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:39:14

I just think that if they express an opinion on their hair, so be it, and I will go for that. Rather have happy children whatever their hair length, tbh.

I have one with short back and sides, one with Justin Bieber hair with silly in-the-eyes floppy fringe, and one who wants to have surfer hair if his hair ever grows.

Where does that place ME?

And as for DD - she expressed no opinion any which way about her hair until she was 14. Again, where does that leave me in your silly analysis?

My opinion is that they are the ones who have to go outside, they are the ones who have to feel happy with their appearance, if they choose to have longer hair, they are the ones who have to deal with getting it brushed every day.

Why is it up to me how they choose to present themselves?

I won't be forcing DS3 to get his hair cut if he wants it shoulder length any more than I would force DS2 to grow his hair longer.

Happy DC's matter far more to me than the style of their hair.

bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 11:39:51

Where I grew up, incredibly short hair on a boy was a sign that they'd had headlice and been shorn... <shudder>

I have no preference, I think it depends on the child and/or parents. My DS1 (12) loves growing his hair long, but he refuses to look after it properly so we get it cut when it gets to a certain length.

DS2 has beautiful auburn curls, and used to have it down to his shoulders - but then developed a habit of chewing it (ASD related) so he has it cut in a terrible home-haircut; as he doesn't tolerate the hairdressers.

It's hilarious that I call bigotry when the OP is wildly discriminatory towards people like my son who has his appearance a certain way because of his disabilities?

Really?

bigsnugglebunny Sun 07-Oct-12 11:40:36

Just to add: DP has waist length hair grin I like it!

minouminou Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:09

DS has got amazingly long blond hair, but he also has some friends with grades 1 and 2 hair. No-one really cares, from what I can gather.
I actually really couldn't give a toss, until some knuckle-dragging moron gets all worked up over artificially created gender nonsense, which thankfully is rare. In those circs, I'm just pissed off at breathing the same air as an idiot. You want your kid to have a short do, get it done....or not....whatever.
Bird - I hope you're joking...I'll assume you are.
If you're not, you're in for serious trouble - that was an obnoxious post.

wisden Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:26

Exactly Couthy there are bigger and more important battles to be had than the length of a childs hair.

JustSpiro Sun 07-Oct-12 11:41:52

It's not something I would go for if I had a DS but what other people do with their children's hair is their business as far as I'm concerned.

TBH honest I don't think brutally short cuts on boys look great either, and I saw a poor little bugger of about 10 with a proper Pat Sharp mullet the other day which was just shock hmm!

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sun 07-Oct-12 11:42:11

Fucking Hell, Birds. Would you ignore the wishes of the parents and the child to do so?

And you're a SW?!

<<Shudders.>>

scottishmummy Sun 07-Oct-12 11:43:30

im v fair.i make snap judgements about everyone
long hair,short hair,dug on lead, or patchouli oil hippy types
i will happily cast aspersions upon anyone if im in the mood

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