to dislike getting texts?(32 Posts)
I get no signal at work, so if someone texts, I don't get it til Im in the car on the way home. I pick up the baby, go home, play for a bit with her, make dinner, tidy up, shower and bed. Somewhere in the midst of this I look at the text and think "i'll reply when I get a minute". Usually that chance is only there at this sort of time when I get to bed.
Certain friends who text will, in response to my reply, engage in a lengthy to-and-fro conversation which I can't always do at this time of night. The texts are general "hey, how are you?" sort of ones and, to be totally honest, small talk.
I am very much of the mindset of if we have news, or want to arrange a meet up then by all means text or call, but I assume a default setting of "everyone is doing fine". I have some friends who seem to work like this, and we have no need to regularly text and ask how the other is etc, and as and when we meet up we catch up.
But it's the ones who don't think along these lines that cause me guilt. I eventually replied to a text from a couple of days ago tonight, at a friend's birthday party during a conversation lul, and the texting went back and forth when eventually I just coulnd't reply due to not wanting to be on my phone most of the night. So I still ended up feeling bad for not replying.
Am I overthinking this?
I wish nobody would ever text me.
If I'm out and my phones rings (or bleeps at me) I'll check who it is. If it's important (babysitter) I'll excuse myself and answer it. If not, it goes back in my bag. I get a lot of "who was that?" "Nobody who can't wait" situations, but if I'm out with a friend I cba to deal with texts and phone calls.
When I'm at home, I'm terrible. I frequently leave it in the bedroom or bathroom, found it in the kitchen cupboard the other day . Without fail, when this happens I don't have a single text or missed call. Hooray for everyone else working.
Not sure I could go without it though, I don't have a landline for emergencies.
I think it is rude to carry on a text conversation when you are with other people. We all have mobile phones, but don't use them a lot. I text to make arrangements, but not to have "conversations". I would rather talk to people face to face or chat on the phone.
DD (12) is at high school and gets a bus, so I feel happier that she has a phone in case the bus breaks down. I like her to carry her phone with her when she goes about with her friends in the village or the shopping mall. OH travels a lot and I like to know that he has reached his destination safely.
And when all my nearest and dearest are with me the phone gets turned off.
Yes, because i fear the cultural norm is to text! Ironically when i visit this friend she is pretty much on her ipad all the time.. I think she treats it like tv used to be used back in the day. So i suggested we go out in the hopes we could have a proper catch up. It halfworked.
stella Did you manage to bite your tongue???
I quite like texts apart from one friend in particular who seems oblivious to common courtesy. She texts at 3am on a regular basis, in fact she sent one of her famous 3am texts when she knew I was in hospital having given birth to twins less than 24 hours before!! Luckily phone wasn't with me but she still does it (have asked her not to)
Now leave my phone downstairs for this very reason - luckily the twins are a good alarm
I flew 3500 miles this week for the funeral of a v dear friend. While there I met up with another v g friend. We got a babysitter and had our first dc-free night out for five years at no little expense. She txted throughout the meal.
Lost in two sentences? Now thats an example of what texting does to thinking.
But sowornout doesn't text.
I know MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea. Carry your mobiles! Won't somebody please think of the children etc etc.
Calm down ladies
What did our mums do in the sixties with no landline or mobiles when we were taken ill at school?
Ds broke his collarbone at school and I had phone turned off (as usual).
Dh had to meet him and the teacher at the hospital and wait in A and E.
He is permanently attached to his Blackberry.
Lost in two sentences? Now thats an example of what texting does to thinking.
Was that a for or against texts GoSaku? It lost me.
You find it offensive that someone doesn't want to exchange waffley small talk by text? Some of us have, you know, lives? If you want to chat, pick up the phone and don't be so rude as to time suck other people on your own terms.
May I join the club please?
I don't have a mobile .
In pre-ds days I didn't even have a landline - yet I had lots of friends and a hectic social life.
When ds was at school I carried an old mobile around in case the school ever needed me (they never did) and on the occasion I received a text from a friend along the lines of 'how are you' I would be puzzled - I saw them yesterday/ will be seeing them tomorrow - we can exchange pleasantries in the good old fashioned free and face to face way. I would never take part in the time wasting hobby of exchanging pointless to and fro text speak.
They encourage rudeness. They also make people walk in front of my car!
Hi MrsRobertDuvall. Lovely to meet another kindred spirit. I am so glad that other people feel the same about mobile phones. Dummies for adults.
I would love to shun emails, but most of my work is done online, so no chance of that.
MrsRobertDuvall you may certainly join the club! Anyone want to join me in hating emails?? I probably check mine once a week (purely because DH has own business and accountants email me the payslips for the lads wages). I then find I have dozens of bloody things offering me Viagra, cheap car loans, degrees from US companies I've never heard of, etc.
I love text messages. A lot of my friends and family live too far away to meet up and I'm not very good at talking on the phone - I find it much easier to express myself in a text where I can redraft if I need to! And sometimes a brief text chat with a friend will make an afternoon stuck at home with 2 small children just that little bit more bearable.
YANBU to dislike them, you're entitled to your opinion. But I think you are unusual.
Can I join the club?
I have a 3.75. carphone warehouse phone, and check it about twice a week if I remember.
Loathe texts..I have to put my glasses on to do one, so consequently have sent about 10 in my life.
I don't want to be contactable at all times, think having your phone on the table at dinner/drinks is so rude.
I email and I call if I want to get n touch with someone.
Mobile phones are dummies for adults.
Just text them back and say sod off that way you will have less friends to annoy you with their texts.
Personally I like communicating with friends whichever way it's done.
I don't see why people can't wait to check and reply to their texts either, and I was brought up like like you. I've just resigned myself to people texting while in my company. I don't say anything, but I do secretly hoist my judgey pants up on high! DF is the worst, constantly on Facebook, Twitter and fiddling with apps on his iPhone. If anyone brings up a subject he'll have to go online and Google it.
I hate the idea of being contactable 24/7 wherever I am, and don't see why I should be. If it's that important they can all my landline and leave a message. Tbh I'm not interested in talking to anyone while I'm out shopping or doing other things.
DS like IM on his laptop, so not much different to texting I s'pose.
MIL! I think we are definitely a dying breed, Lesley. But I also think MIL is damned rude to be texting at the tea table. I just can't get my head round why normally polite people don't see that it's rude to be ignoring the people you are with and sending texts. We were brought up that if visitors turned up you turned the TV off and sat making polite conversation, so I just can't understand why it's ok to text whilst in company. Surely nothing is that urgent?
My DCs aren't too bad with phones. Although the teens all have one (phone bought by father, calls paid for by them) they accept that Ma is a freak about them and that if you want a lift anywhere then you put your phone in your bag and chat to the old girl. You can check your texts when you get to where you're going and Mother is driving away again. (I have occasionally seen them doing so in my rear view mirror )
I really don't blame you. Yes, the old 'what if you break down?'. Because you might get stranded for days in the wilderness without food and water here in the UK.
I think it's rude to always text when you're in the company of others. Maybe we are old farts and a dying breed sowornout. Even MIL will sit here and text away while having tea with us, and she is a very polite person apart from that.
Funnily enough, DS 13 going on 14 shares my view of mobile phones being intrusive and isn't bothered about his. Slightly concerned about whether this is normal for a teenager though!
lol...my DH thinks I'm nuts! He keeps saying, 'what if you break down?' and I point out that I've held a driving licence for 28 years. A couple of times over those years I've broken down and simply walked to the nearest house and knocked on the door and asked to use the phone. (Probably not for 10 years or so, admittedly). What happens if you have no signal/battery is low/no credit? is my argument.
I teach secondary and mentioned this last year and the teens were horrified. One of them said, 'Miss - my NAN's got a mobile'. I just genuinely don't feel the need for one and loathe seeing people constantly texting rather than having a conversation with the people they are actually with. My own teens know they are banned from texting other (more interesting) friends when they are with me. Mobile phones are my Room 101 item.....
HI sowornout. Nice to meet you! I must admit that I only recently got one to shut DP up. I never switch it on. I was without a mobile for ages though.
Hooray for Lesley. Have you got a mobile? Or am I genuinely the only person in Britain who refuses to have one? Like you, I think people managed perfectly well before they were invented.
I just don't like mobile phones, so don't like texts by default. I find them very annoying and people managed perfectly well without them back in the olden days.
I love getting texts. That way i wont need to talk to people
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