I get no signal at work, so if someone texts, I don't get it til Im in the car on the way home. I pick up the baby, go home, play for a bit with her, make dinner, tidy up, shower and bed. Somewhere in the midst of this I look at the text and think "i'll reply when I get a minute". Usually that chance is only there at this sort of time when I get to bed.
Certain friends who text will, in response to my reply, engage in a lengthy to-and-fro conversation which I can't always do at this time of night. The texts are general "hey, how are you?" sort of ones and, to be totally honest, small talk.
I am very much of the mindset of if we have news, or want to arrange a meet up then by all means text or call, but I assume a default setting of "everyone is doing fine". I have some friends who seem to work like this, and we have no need to regularly text and ask how the other is etc, and as and when we meet up we catch up.
But it's the ones who don't think along these lines that cause me guilt. I eventually replied to a text from a couple of days ago tonight, at a friend's birthday party during a conversation lul, and the texting went back and forth when eventually I just coulnd't reply due to not wanting to be on my phone most of the night. So I still ended up feeling bad for not replying.
Am I overthinking this?
I wish nobody would ever text me.
AIBU?
to dislike getting texts?
GoldPlatedNineDoors · 07/10/2012 00:08
I do sometimes forget to reply but I do think it's a good way to let someone know you are thinking about them. So yabu and Yanbu. Hth 
gotta go. The fence is digging into my ass.
Maybe shes not into wiffly waffly small talk.<br /> Maybe shes not interested in kids.
Maybe she`s me dont worry shes not.
Why not text back the non wiffly waffly versions that speak volumes about you not being into long drawn out text conversations about fuck all?
'Hi'
'K'
'TY'
'Will do'
'Cheers'
It's enough to put any friend off trying to text poke you again 
I love getting texts. That way i wont need to talk to people
lol...my DH thinks I'm nuts! He keeps saying, 'what if you break down?' and I point out that I've held a driving licence for 28 years. A couple of times over those years I've broken down and simply walked to the nearest house and knocked on the door and asked to use the phone. (Probably not for 10 years or so, admittedly). What happens if you have no signal/battery is low/no credit? is my argument.
I teach secondary and mentioned this last year and the teens were horrified. One of them said, 'Miss - my NAN's got a mobile'. I just genuinely don't feel the need for one and loathe seeing people constantly texting rather than having a conversation with the people they are actually with. My own teens know they are banned from texting other (more interesting) friends when they are with me. Mobile phones are my Room 101 item.....
I really don't blame you. Yes, the old 'what if you break down?'. Because you might get stranded for days in the wilderness without food and water here in the UK. 
I think it's rude to always text when you're in the company of others. Maybe we are old farts and a dying breed sowornout. Even MIL will sit here and text away while having tea with us, and she is a very polite person apart from that.
Funnily enough, DS 13 going on 14 shares my view of mobile phones being intrusive and isn't bothered about his. Slightly concerned about whether this is normal for a teenager though!
MIL! I think we are definitely a dying breed, Lesley. But I also think MIL is damned rude to be texting at the tea table. I just can't get my head round why normally polite people don't see that it's rude to be ignoring the people you are with and sending texts. We were brought up that if visitors turned up you turned the TV off and sat making polite conversation, so I just can't understand why it's ok to text whilst in company. Surely nothing is that urgent?
My DCs aren't too bad with phones. Although the teens all have one (phone bought by father, calls paid for by them) they accept that Ma is a freak about them and that if you want a lift anywhere then you put your phone in your bag and chat to the old girl. You can check your texts when you get to where you're going and Mother is driving away again. (I have occasionally seen them doing so in my rear view mirror 
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Hi MrsRobertDuvall. Lovely to meet another kindred spirit. I am so glad that other people feel the same about mobile phones. Dummies for adults.
I would love to shun emails, but most of my work is done online, so no chance of that.
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Calm down ladies
What did our mums do in the sixties with no landline or mobiles when we were taken ill at school?
Ds broke his collarbone at school and I had phone turned off (as usual).
Dh had to meet him and the teacher at the hospital and wait in A and E.
He is permanently attached to his Blackberry.
Lost in two sentences? Now thats an example of what texting does to thinking.
But sowornout doesn't text. 
I know MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea. Carry your mobiles! Won't somebody please think of the children etc etc.
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