In late May, my friend went on a night out and met a guy.
She has a two-year-old daughter. Her first date with this guy took place two days after they met. This was a picnic in the park with her daughter.
A week later, they started to say 'I love you' to each other.'
The next week, he moved out of his mums and into her flat permanently.
Then she got her daughter to buy him a father's day card and gift.
At the end of June, she left her daughter for two weeks with her mum and went to Spain with her new BF. They came back engaged.
Since then, they've broke up twice. Been with other people. She's been ranting about how mean he is by not maintaining contact with 'their' daughter. His mum's been writing on her FB wall asking about her 'granddaughter'.
They got back together, and announced via Facebook that they were going to start TTC before their wedding next year. She's now pregnant and they're on a break. She's been moaning at me how upset her little girl's been since 'Daddy' left.
This has all taken place in under four months.
AIBU to think she should never have introduced her BF to her daughter so soon? She can do what she wants in her own life, it's none of my business, but surely she should be thinking of her daughter instead of herself?
She split up with her daughter's real father when she was pregnant, because he was always out getting drunk. He is twenty years older than her and has eight kids already with two other women. He has never had contact with my friend's daughter.
My friend used to go out every weekend since having her daughter. She'd binge drink and take drugs (horse tranquilisers, whatever the hell they are), knowing full well she had her daughter the next morning.
And then she'd text and write on FB how hungover she was and begging people to babysit for her so she could get some sleep. We fell out a lot over this actually whenever i told her how I felt.
TBH, when she announced her relationship with this new guy, i assumed he was just going to be another one-off. But since she got with him, she's not taken drugs and stays in most weekends as a family.
So in a way, he's calmed her down a lot.
I should butt out, but i'm concerned for her and her daughter and also needed to get all this out.
So AIBU? Or is my friend being unreasonable in how she has behaved?
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AIBU?
To think my friend is behaving like a lovestruck teen instead of a responsible mother?
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TM08 · 05/10/2012 13:55
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