Failure to remove a dead mouse

(61 Posts)
bubbles11 Fri 05-Oct-12 10:23:06

Friday mornings are manic for me getting 2 children to nursery and also on Fridays I try to hoover the house (husband does not like the hoover going when he is home) and sort out formula milk/ something for dinner etc before going to work
Almost finished the hooovering this morning (one room to go) babies in the car, failed to get something out of the freezer for dinner because as i was going to get it i saw a dead mouse which our cat obviously brought in lying on the carpet in the room between me and the freezer (the only room i had not hoovered)
it is both pathetic and lazy of me to have left a voicemessage for husband at work saying when you get home can you pick up the dead mouse for me isn't it. he knows I have a total hatred of mice (dead or alive) but still this is pathetic of me. Been trying to concentrate since i got to work but wondering whether i can creep home at lunchtime to ask the neighbour to do it. trouble is it is a 20 min drive each way to get home & back

MadBusLady Sat 06-Oct-12 12:33:43

I hope you come back here bubbles. sad

Thumbwitch Sat 06-Oct-12 11:59:13

I could manage a mouse, probably but if it had been a rat I'd have been just the same. I can't get near rats, dead or alive. And to compound that issue, my house in the UK had rats in there 3 times - twice with visible corpses. Both times I had to get some useful male to remove them blush

Softlysoftly Sat 06-Oct-12 11:55:40

Worrying op really worrying you need help.

And unless your home is the size of a postage stamp I predict those children are in the car 30-45 minutes? How early do they have to get up to get ready, clean the house and be to school/work on time?

It's cruel sorry, you need to think about your kids and yourself and have a serious think.

mrsminerva Sat 06-Oct-12 11:54:23

Bubbles11 the situation will not go away, it will only get worse and you are being unkind to yourself if you don't address it. This sounds like a deeply assymetric relationship.

WilsonFrickett Sat 06-Oct-12 11:49:56

OP, I think you've gone. I just wanted to say, if you ever wanted to come back and post again there are people here who will listen to you and support you through anything. That's all, really.

shesariver Sat 06-Oct-12 11:36:04

it is both pathetic and lazy of me to have left a voicemessage for husband at work saying when you get home can you pick up the dead mouse for me isn't it.

Now this is worrying. Why do you think its pathetic? If it was me I would either leave a jokey message with my DH "theres a surprise in the kitchen for you" something like that or I would expect him to just do it - after all its his house to. What are you so scared of, really??

shesariver Sat 06-Oct-12 11:30:10

As people have said this is not about a dead mouse and I think deep down you know that. I suspect its the straw that broke the camels back that prompted you to post here and subconsciously you are asking for help. I could be really off mark and if I am I apologise but I dont think I am. You know locking your children in the car to hoover is not normal but this behaviour seems prompted by a fear of what you DH will do if you dont pander to him. What would he do if you hoovered whilst he was in the house? And why is he not doing his share of the housework?

And clearly you are scared that if you dont go home at lunchtime and pick up said dead mouse there will be a reaction from him.

Miltonia Sat 06-Oct-12 11:01:02

Please don't do a 40 minute round trip to deal with the mouse. It isn't going anywhere.

I never like to use indoor dustpans/brushes/tongs for dead mice. I get a garden trowel and flick the mouse onto some newspaper. Put newspaper and mouse in plastic bag, tie and put in bin. Sorted. Usually DH sorts the dead mice though, I don't know what he does and don't like to ask.

The mouse sounds the least of your problems though.

AreAllMenTheSame2 Sat 06-Oct-12 10:51:01

Rulebrittannia I totally agree... Also have a suspicion that op's husband is a man child

RuleBritannia Sat 06-Oct-12 10:09:39


I suspect that's what her husband calls her and possibly the MIL as well.

NellyJob Sat 06-Oct-12 09:53:25

a deep reading of OP reveals that twice she has described herself as ' failing', twice as 'pathetic', once as 'lazy', and has asked people to confirm that opinion of herself.
OP is your husband abusive?

whois Sat 06-Oct-12 09:46:49

Fuck me, this screams "wrong, wrong, wrong" at me.

OP, why are you doing all the housework, why are you locking your children in the car, what are you so afraid of??? The relationship doesn't sound healthy. You husband sounds like he could turn out I be a bit of a nasty piece of work...???

WhispersOfWickedness Sat 06-Oct-12 09:36:59

Nagoo - yes, that worried me too. What exactly is it that the OP is afraid of if she doesn't do the cleaning/hoovering/picking up a dead mouse sad

Moln Sat 06-Oct-12 08:20:21

Oh and one question I missed. What happens if Dh hears the vacuum? Does he put his hands over his ear and start screaming or something else?

My dad hates the sound of the vacuum, he just lives with it though, goes into a different room, even does it himself at times if needs be. my mum never had to do it whilst he as out on tight timeslot. she didn't fear it not being done.

Moln Sat 06-Oct-12 08:15:06

This is baffling, and it's not about the mouse at all is it.

What would happen if you didn't vacuum? What would DH do? The obvious thing seems that it wouldn't be nice because yyou lock your children in a car to do it and you feel terrible for doing this but do it anyway, is that becasue your fear of DH is greater?

Why can't your DH pick up the mouse? Is it because it'd be there meaning the house isn't clean enough?

Why does your MIL think she should tell you when to clean the house, it's far from normal.

What does "stressed" actually mean? My DH has been stressed but it doesn't mean I have to do things I have a phobia about nor lock my children away to ensure the house is clean. He might be a bit snappy that's it (and that's it for most people too)

Your use of language in your posts is telling, how you put yourself down and the negative words you use about yourself

saffronwblue Sat 06-Oct-12 08:06:14

You are bringing up another generation who are afraid of the Hoover? I hope you can see your way to maybe a few changes in the way things are done...
Hope mouse is gone by now.

scrablet Sat 06-Oct-12 08:05:53

OP, hope you are ok. Please listen to posters on here, they are concerned for you, you sound to be in a very difficult situation.

Nagoo Sat 06-Oct-12 07:59:38

what would happen if he came home and saw the mouse?

I am really worried about the pressure on a person who would do a 40 min trip to pick up a mouse she was phobic about picking up.

kilmuir Sat 06-Oct-12 07:55:56

Poor children.
Who cares that DH does not like hoovering? Whats more important, obeying him or childrens welfare?
Really am amazed at some peoples priorities

ErikNorseman Sat 06-Oct-12 07:44:15

Op your life sounds incredibly stressful. Far more than a life should be. Why do you think that is? (Clue; you're married to it)

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 06:58:52

How did it go OP? Did you go back at lunch or did your H do it for you?

OhThisIsJustGrape Fri 05-Oct-12 12:37:03

Please, please don't lock your children in the car whilst you Hoover. As pp said, you'd never hear a problem if it happened and what if you tripped carrying the Hoover down the stairs? A neighbour could report you for doing this if it happens as regularly as you say.

Your DH needs a swift kick up the arse - you're supposed to be a team but only one of you is doing all the shitwork sad

MadBusLady Fri 05-Oct-12 12:25:32

Exactly what Wilson Frickett said. There's a bloody iceberg under here, isn't there.

No, YANBU by asking your DH to clear up a dead mouse when he knows you hate them. But you've since decided that YABU and are going to skivvy around anyway, so I guess I've missed the boat on that one.

squeakytoy Fri 05-Oct-12 12:11:20

dont hoover a dead mouse up for heavens sakes.. just get a dustpan and brush, sweep the body up, dump it in the dustbin.

it is a mouse, it is no more squeamish, dangerous, or difficult than it would be to pick a chicken up and put it into a roasting dish ready for the oven..

and as for putting the kids in the car while you do the housework... words fail me at the bizarreness of that..

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Fri 05-Oct-12 12:09:25

Hope you're ok and manage to deal with the mouse OP. your posts are quite worrying, sounds like you're being treated like a right skivvy.

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