Failure to remove a dead mouse

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bubbles11 Fri 05-Oct-12 10:23:06

Friday mornings are manic for me getting 2 children to nursery and also on Fridays I try to hoover the house (husband does not like the hoover going when he is home) and sort out formula milk/ something for dinner etc before going to work
Almost finished the hooovering this morning (one room to go) babies in the car, failed to get something out of the freezer for dinner because as i was going to get it i saw a dead mouse which our cat obviously brought in lying on the carpet in the room between me and the freezer (the only room i had not hoovered)
it is both pathetic and lazy of me to have left a voicemessage for husband at work saying when you get home can you pick up the dead mouse for me isn't it. he knows I have a total hatred of mice (dead or alive) but still this is pathetic of me. Been trying to concentrate since i got to work but wondering whether i can creep home at lunchtime to ask the neighbour to do it. trouble is it is a 20 min drive each way to get home & back

Svrider Fri 05-Oct-12 10:25:18

What's done is is done
Or not
All men have their uses, perhaps your dh will be marvellous at dead mice removal
Yanbu

bubbles11 Fri 05-Oct-12 10:27:40

thanks svirder
i do hate mice but i am thinking maybe if i was not so stressed about the clock i could have summoned up the ability to do it myself
but i hate hate hate mice with a passion
(give me a big black hairy spider any day and i wont even wince)
pathetic

i will have to go home at lunchtime and do it myself, that will settle it

LadyMargolotta Fri 05-Oct-12 10:29:48

(husband does not like the hoover going when he is home) - wtf!

Who are you married to, Mariah Carey?

bubbles11 Fri 05-Oct-12 10:32:19

he is very stressed
always has been

his mother (my mother in law) told me just after our first baby to make sure I got all the housework done on my day off (1 work 4 days per week) so the weekends were free. i managed this after the first baby but it is much harder to do this with two

anyway that is off the point

minipie Fri 05-Oct-12 10:32:31

Ah bless you. Everyone is allowed one irrational fear I think!

On the plus side, if you can summon up the courage to deal with it, your DH will be impressed smile

I would suggest gloves plus many layers of paper towel, then you won't really feel it as you pick it up. Or use a trowel if you have one so no need to touch it at all.

Do not do it! If you are horrified by mice, he should do it. In our house, DH gets rid of spiders, and I get rid of slugs and mice, it's a kindness not to make the other person pick up what they don't like. If DH had sent me a message asking me to remove one of the above when I got home, I'd gladly do it, I certainly wouldn't call him lazy! I would expect the same respect with regards to spiders (except the little buggers would have disappeared by then hmm).

minipie Fri 05-Oct-12 10:33:26

Oh and sounds like your MIL needs to butt out! smile but as you say that's off the point.

LadyMargolotta Fri 05-Oct-12 10:35:01

Well let's hope he does have some uses regarding dead mice removal, he sounds a bit delicate otherwise.

If not, I would suggest LEAVE THE BASTARD.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Fri 05-Oct-12 10:36:07

Not unreasonable at all, I would do the same.

WorraLiberty Fri 05-Oct-12 10:36:54

Who are you married to, Mariah Carey?

Tea through nostrils moment grin

OP, just pick it up in a tissue and drop it in the wheelie bin.

Did I read that wrong or were you hoovering the house whilst the babies were in the car? confused

X post, I was a bit confused about the hoovering too... And now the housework! So, not only does he not do any, he can't even bring himself to be in the house whilst his muck is being cleaned up?! confusedhmm I think you have deeper issues than a dead mouse tbh confused
Btw, my DH is a bugger with housework too, he hardly does any, but then he is happy to live in filthhmmgrin

TheVermiciousKnid Fri 05-Oct-12 10:38:37

Why go back at lunch time? The mouse isn't going to go anywhere (unless it's a zombie mouse), surely it can wait till evening.

Re. the housework, your MIL etc, I think the dead mouse is the least of your problems!

Mintyy Fri 05-Oct-12 10:38:57

Please invite your mother in law to come round and do the hoovering every week on your day off, while you go out with the children. Will you do that for me?

Gigondas Fri 05-Oct-12 10:42:20

Yanbu about the mouse but wtaf about dh and hoovering and housework. Did you sign up to marry another child?

bubbles11 Fri 05-Oct-12 10:43:00

The hoovering / housework whilst the children are in the car in the mornings is one of my deepest shames. not denying it, yes it makes me feel crap, yes even tho they are sat on the driveway (safe, car locked, detached house etc) i still hate it but can see no other way round it. excuses, cannot bring myself to get into more of a discussion about it

perceptive comments about my marriage but that is a whole other thread

am going home at lunchtime to sort it out

thanks for the reply and humour which made me smile which is good !

Mintyy Fri 05-Oct-12 10:44:39

bubbles - don't go back at lunch time. Please please please don't. And why do you lock your children in your car when you are hoovering? Come on!

NellyJob Fri 05-Oct-12 10:44:45

get a really thick handful of kitchen roll and use that to pick it up, it will be fine.
as for 'husband doesn't like the hoover going' and your Mil's advice -ffs sometimes I am grateful to be a single mother.......

BBQ tongs are the tool de jour.

LadyMargolotta Fri 05-Oct-12 10:47:42

Don't go back at lunchtime. Leave it to him to deal with.

Relax at lunchtime. it sounds like you need it.

WorraLiberty Fri 05-Oct-12 11:12:18

The hoovering / housework whilst the children are in the car in the mornings is one of my deepest shames. not denying it, yes it makes me feel crap, yes even tho they are sat on the driveway (safe, car locked, detached house etc) i still hate it but can see no other way round it. excuses, cannot bring myself to get into more of a discussion about it

I'm sorry but how the fuck do you get a 2yr old and a 3yr old (I believe that's the age of your kids?) to sit happily in a car on their own, whilst you hoover through the entire house? confused

That's insane.

TheProvincialLady Fri 05-Oct-12 11:15:56

Sweetheart, something is deeply wrong if your husband is so 'stressed' that you have to lock your toddlers in a car so that you can vacuum. I also don't understand why they can't just be in the house while you do it?

You do realise that 'stress' is his way of making sure you are responsible for all the shitwork? And why should you be?

WilsonFrickett Fri 05-Oct-12 11:16:44

You lock your kids in the car while you hoover.
Mainly because your MIL told you it was important to do all the housework at a time convenient to your DH.
Who doesn't like you hoovering.
You're going to make a 40 minute round trip at lunchtime to pick up a dead mouse because you're sure your husband won't.

Are you OK?

hmm

You are treated like a skivvy and the mouse is your main concern?

TheProvincialLady Fri 05-Oct-12 11:18:05

BTW I would disagree with you that your children are safe. If you are vacuuming, you have no idea whether they are awake, asleep, distressed, too hot, fighting, fiddling with the car controls etc etc. You wouldn't even hear if the window was smashed and someone got in - very unlikely though that scenario is, you just wouldn't. And this is a regular occurrence.

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