To have told him they cant stay?

(67 Posts)
Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:16:31

I live in an area which traditionally makes fireworks night a huge deal. Theres a carnival type thing in the evening, and several fireworks display with one main. Last year 60,000 people attended. My house is a stones throw away from the main fireworks and my front door is where these 60,000 people go past to get to it.
My road is closed off for the night and as you can imagine, its mayhem. The displays stop at 10-11ish but people let bangers off left right and centre all night.

With two young children very scared of fireworks, each year I upsticks for the night and take them elsewhere. No problem.

Except today my partner who does not live with me said he was going to the display this year. No problem!

But can his 25 year old niece and her bf of 3 months crash in my front room.
Because they want to come and they live an hour away.
I said no chance. And he thinks Im really unfair.

My reasons - I dont want to leave my home but I have to. I dont want anyone else in my home when its my children and I that should be in it.

I dont want 3 muddy, pissed people falling through my door. One of which is a perfect stranger.

I dont want a young, new couple potentially fucking on the floor where my children play.

I dont mind DP staying but not the others. AIBU like DP thinks?

Disclaimer, my children and DP's children too. So he gets the night off.

(For the nosey people who want to know, we dont live together because we split up for 18 months a few years ago and currently wating for both our tennancys to expire and were moving in together again.)

This has reminded me I need to get my dogs medicine to calm her (valarian) and mine (vodka) to calm me, for when my DP takes my DC out to watch the fireworks and leaves the two of us cowering at home.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:41:02

Well yeah that is an option. But if they were going to go there, in the next town they may as well stay at the bf's folks which is just one stop further. Why this is even an issue Ive got no idea.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:43:00

Im not gonna lie. Its mainly my discomfort about them shagging where my kids sit and play.

I know, I know it wont kill them. But I just Dont Like It.

YUNoSaySomethingNice Wed 03-Oct-12 19:43:38

Erm, well, it's your house so it is up to you ......but it does seem a bit mean.

It is your partners niece and she is 25, it sounds like it would be nice for your DP. I could understand if it were some unknown teenagers. Do have a particular reason for thinking there will be a problem? It will give a clear message to your DP that he must only think of himself as a guest when he is in your house.

As for worrying about them having sex on your carpet floor, err, I think that a bit weird too. Presumably your DC's have slept in beds other than their own before which have previously had couples in them. Do you never have guests in your house?

I think YAB very U and a bit controlling ( sorry )

McHappyPants2012 Wed 03-Oct-12 19:45:31

Would they even shag, when her uncle could hear them at it

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:47:27

My kids havent slept in adult beds that have just been fucked in, no. As babies, they have been in our bed which had been, but sleeping in other adult beds that have just been shagged in, no they havent. What a funny thing to think.

Why don't you go to your DP's house with the kids instead of kipping on the floor somewhere else?

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:49:52

I tell you what though, you lot are making me feel like a right tight bastard now. smile

Yes, she would absolutely shag even with the risk of him hearing. I want to explain why, man ALIVE I do. But she is a Z-list celeb so it would noy be at all anon. I need to press though, she is lovely, knd and my problem is not with her per se. But the shagging.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Wed 03-Oct-12 19:51:15

YANBU. I would hate for them to stay over too. Just say No.

McHappyPants2012 Wed 03-Oct-12 19:52:17

now we all need to know this Z list celeb.

YANBU! How odd!

Assuming you're where I think you are, I'm really looking forward to it, my boss is in the town centre and has offered DP and I a room for the night grin

I also wonder if I know you IRL? <<ponders which of charges friends Mum's may be an MNetter>> wink

AmberLeaf Wed 03-Oct-12 19:54:39

God yes, I need to know who she is! grin and why your sure she would shag!

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:54:51

Tbh I doubt very very much any of you would have heard of her. But its a possibility all the same so I cant say any more as it would be mightily unfair on her.
Even if I did disclose it'd br a huge anti climax believe me. Scuse the pun.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:56:34

Oh the reason why I know she would shag IS quite gossipy, that Im fucking busting to say but unfortunately I actually quite like her so cant. Plus it'd get back to me and it's not worth the grief from DP.

Id look like a RIGHT cunt then.

Strawhatpirate Wed 03-Oct-12 20:07:51

I don't think YABU dp should be with you looking after the dcs and not eating toffee apples and turning yours and the dcs home into a makeshift hostel/shagpad for his relatives. I might be a bit biased though because bonfire night gets right on my titamaboobs!

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 20:14:43

Ergh I just read back my last two replies. If Id seen someone write that Id have thought 'oh shut up you twat.'

Ok so most of you think Im being a meany and should just wipe up the jizz and let them stay but some of you understand where I am coming from.

I appreciate the input as I will now be a little more patient with dp when I explain that its NEVER GONNA HAPPEN! .

A previous poster is right though, Id have to grin and bare it if it was both our homes!

YUNoSaySomethingNice Wed 03-Oct-12 20:20:37

So you like her and you think she is lovely and kind but you still won't let her stay shock That's even worse! You could ask your DP to clean the carpet afterwards if you are that worried? confused.

I guess you don't stay in hotels, or let them have sleepovers either?? It is going to be very restrictive only letting them sleep in their own 'clean' beds.

I am sorry but I can't see why you object so strongly to the bonking. There must be more to this.........hmm.

does z list celebs include any porn stars

YUNoSaySomethingNice Wed 03-Oct-12 20:22:43

Despite my earlier posts, i have to say I respect you for doing what you want in your own home. smile

even if you are wrong and a bit of a meany

SofaKing Wed 03-Oct-12 20:25:37

If they live an hour away can you and DC go to their house and swap for the night?

Then if you get back and find they haven't shagged on your floor, you can phone them and tell them they should ON NO ACCOUNT use the cucumber in the fridge grin

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 20:27:10

Yes Z-list celebs do include them.

They would be staying in the living room. Theres no bed in there, theres no sheets I can wash, or quilt that can be stripped.

Of COURSE I dont mind my kids staying in clean beds that previously werent clean.

But there is no bed in my living room. I dont actually have any idea what DP was thinking.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 20:28:38

sofaking no way am I going an hour away!! Why would I?

My kids have school first thing in the morning to start with.

margerykemp Wed 03-Oct-12 20:29:12

Can't you just have a no sex rule or insist they sleep separately?

perfectstorm Wed 03-Oct-12 20:30:34

I could completely understand this if your DP weren't present - I'd worry about damage to the house with drunken youngsters. But she's 25, not 17. And the father of your kids, and the man you plan to live with again in the near future, will be there. So I just don't understand.

Is your house a newbuild, incidentally? Because if not, there will have been plenty of action in various rooms over the years.

Tell DH if he buys a double blow-up mattress and washes the sheets afterwards, then fine.

I must be really scummy. I don't give a monkeys who shags in our sofabed, or who did in our spare room before having DS. It's just sex. They haven't had a crap in it.

perfectstorm Wed 03-Oct-12 20:31:59

Here you go. Kingsize and everything.

perfectstorm Wed 03-Oct-12 20:33:26

And plastic is wipeable with these, too. grin).

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