To have told him they cant stay?

(67 Posts)
Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:16:31

I live in an area which traditionally makes fireworks night a huge deal. Theres a carnival type thing in the evening, and several fireworks display with one main. Last year 60,000 people attended. My house is a stones throw away from the main fireworks and my front door is where these 60,000 people go past to get to it.
My road is closed off for the night and as you can imagine, its mayhem. The displays stop at 10-11ish but people let bangers off left right and centre all night.

With two young children very scared of fireworks, each year I upsticks for the night and take them elsewhere. No problem.

Except today my partner who does not live with me said he was going to the display this year. No problem!

But can his 25 year old niece and her bf of 3 months crash in my front room.
Because they want to come and they live an hour away.
I said no chance. And he thinks Im really unfair.

My reasons - I dont want to leave my home but I have to. I dont want anyone else in my home when its my children and I that should be in it.

I dont want 3 muddy, pissed people falling through my door. One of which is a perfect stranger.

I dont want a young, new couple potentially fucking on the floor where my children play.

I dont mind DP staying but not the others. AIBU like DP thinks?

Disclaimer, my children and DP's children too. So he gets the night off.

(For the nosey people who want to know, we dont live together because we split up for 18 months a few years ago and currently wating for both our tennancys to expire and were moving in together again.)

Annunziata Wed 03-Oct-12 19:17:23

YABU, your house, your rules. End of.

I think YABU, yes. I would let them stay as long as your DP is trustworthy.

SkippyYourFriendEverTrue Wed 03-Oct-12 19:20:52

You live in Lewes?

Can I come and stay?

Annunziata Wed 03-Oct-12 19:21:20

Sorry, YANBU... long day!

WelshMaenad Wed 03-Oct-12 19:21:48

I fuck on the living room floor where my children play might have plans to do do tonight actually and they've not died of it yet. As long as your DP cleans and tidies up before you get home I don't see the problem, really.

Bobyan Wed 03-Oct-12 19:21:55

Ottery St Mary?

I think he should go with you.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:25:31

Good for your Welsh.

I just dont want YOU or any other complete strangers fucking on my floor/sofa. grin

TheProvincialLady Wed 03-Oct-12 19:25:48

It's your house, not your partner's. It's not up to him to decide. You don't want a stranger staying in your house when you're not even there and why the hell should you? I would say no too.

BTW I used to live in a similar town and it was crap every year. We always went away for the weekend too. Sympathy.

Its your house your rules so yanbu on that level.

Although I do think yabu in terms of the reasoning. Do your children never sit on or in your bed?

WelshMaenad Wed 03-Oct-12 19:27:34

Tbh, unless you can offer up 100% wool Berber twist carpeting, I don't really want to fuck in your floor either. I just don't see what the harm is. Ask them to put a tarp down if they plan on getting really filthy maybe.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:28:33

<boak>
Why do I picture these things?!

WelshMaenad Wed 03-Oct-12 19:30:01

Bahahahaha. Just tell them no scat play near the toyboxes probably not helping-

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:31:16

Tbh its not happening and thats final, Im totally ok with the fact that I am being unreasonable even thoughh I think Im being totally reasonable I jist wondered why DP couldnt see it from my angle.

But I guess some of you are.

mrsconfuseddotcom Wed 03-Oct-12 19:31:26

YANBU

Your house = your rules

StellaNova Wed 03-Oct-12 19:32:01

YAB a bit U I think, unless you really think the muddy pissed people are going to vomit and track mud all over your house. If not, what do you think they are going to be doing to it? I'd be really pleased that while I couldn't make best use of the location, someone else could (unless, as I said, they were likely to leave trails of sick down the stairs).

Re: not wanting people to have sex on your floor, I just find that a bit odd. How far is your floor prepared to go? Cuddling? Snogging?

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 03-Oct-12 19:32:35

YANBU. And if you think there's a chance that your dp might let them stay, I'd be locking him out too.

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:34:53

Only I, Queen of Carpets, can fuck on my floor.

Yes, I am imagining mud trekked through my house, shagging in my front room and just a stranger in my home while Im kipping ok the floor of someone else's house when I REALLY dont want to be. Just makes me say no.

WelshMaenad Wed 03-Oct-12 19:35:28

Thing is, what happens when you guys move in together again? If he makes a similar request them, you would be VVVU to tell him he couldn't have family stay on his own home, and would probably have to suck it up.

So is this really about muddy pissed folk scandalising your carpeting, or is this about control? Genuine question.

quoteunquote Wed 03-Oct-12 19:35:39

just tell them you have installed lots of hidden web cams,

then you won't have to worry about people having sex in the sitting room,

and ask if everyone can take their shoes off.

TooMuchRain Wed 03-Oct-12 19:36:44

Your house your rules - but I don't really see the problem if your DP is there

Leaveitalready Wed 03-Oct-12 19:38:41

Honestly, I dont think its about control (but I did have to think about it shock) Because if it was just DP and his neice, Id never have said no.

But I know they wouldnt get shot faced together and bowl through the door and I really, really hope they wouldnt fuck on my floor...

KenLeeeeeee Wed 03-Oct-12 19:39:18

YANBU. It's your house. Why can't they stay at his house instead?

lovebunny Wed 03-Oct-12 19:39:47

you are not obliged to leave your house open to strangers, especially when you cannot be there to supervise. your bf is inconsiderate to ask.

Hullygully Wed 03-Oct-12 19:40:15

Is it about the sex?

Is it?

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