To have found it quite hilarious that ds told his dad 'its a free country'

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

When his dad (my ex) scolded him for wearing nail polish as its a 'girl' thing.
I explained to ds that he shouldnt say it to his dad again and to apologise for talking to him like that but inside i found it hilarious and i have to admit to laughing when his grandma told me when she dropped ds back off home. And to be fair hes telling the truth, he shouldnt have to not wear nail polish just because his dad things its girly.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

How old is he?

[clicketyclick66]

My brothers liked to steal my make-up and nail varnish when they were young, my father would laugh!
And they didn't become cross-dressers when they entered adulthood.
Your son is right!

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Hes 4. He heard me say it when i was telling him that boys can do 'girl' things and girls can do 'boy' things and really theyre 'everybody' things as we live in a free country.
I just hope he didnt say well mummy says...

[FallenCaryatid]

He's right, an individual is free to wear make-up in this country, and many men do.
It's a free country, but his parents are in charge of his choices until he's 18.
Your OH sounds a bit testosteronally-challenged though.

[FallenCaryatid]

'I just hope he didnt say well mummy says...'

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Hes very testosteronally challenged! Haha, he is my ex, sees ds sparodically, when he can be arsed and thinks he has a right to tell him things are only for boys or girls. Ds has a doll, thats wrong, he has a pink shirt (his fav) thats wrong etc etc.

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Fallen, i hope he didnt say my mummy says its a free country, as in i told him to say it, as i didnt say it in that manner but hes 4 and i know they interpret things there own way.

[HerRoyalNotness]

"parents in charge of his choices until he is 18" what?

seriously you think children shouldn't develop their personality and have their own preferences and express them until they're 18!?

Are you my mother?

[FallenCaryatid]

No, I have a 17 year old and a 21 year old and they've been their own people since they were dots. I think it's a shame that the OP's partner is a prat, but if he refuses to let his son wear nail polish, and the OP is worried about conflict, then that child has a long, hard road ahead for the next 14 years unless he turns out ordinary.

[FallenCaryatid]

Hurrah, he's an ex partner. Good choice OP.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

I agree Royal. Parents are not in charge of choices. They are there to guide and protect. But they do not own their kids.

If the OPs son wants to have his nails painted thats up to him. As long as he isnt choosing to do something damaging to himself or others no one has a right to tell him not to.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

I don't think it matters if he says 'mummy says' either.
After all, mummy's right.

[FallenCaryatid]

Parents on here witter about their children's choices all the time.

[LaurieFairyCake]

Clearly he doesn't want his son turning out 'gay' - what with gay being catching from nail varnish

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

If i had known him as the man he is now, he would not be an ex, as he would never had been a bf in the first place, but alas he was nice then, now he is moronic at worst and a disappointment at best.

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Rofl Laurie, that pretty much sums up ex dp.

[HerRoyalNotness]

See, my DH can be a twat when it comes to girls/boys things. But he bit his lip when DS1 wanted a my little pony. He loves that show, introduced by his little girl friend, and you know boys love horses too! I'm teaching him it's okay, and DH is supporting that by not revealing is true feelings on the matter.

As wannabe pointed out if it really doesn't harm the child, why should he be bothered about it?