to tell my older sister to grow up?

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

My sister rang me while I was at work, she had a rant (a weekly hobby of hers) but because I wasn't saying much due to my boss standing close by, she totally flew off the handle and hung up on me.

So I txt her, telling her to grow up as she needs to realise she can't just hang up on people (she does it everytime the conversation doesn't go her way, and I mean every time)

She replied saying I don't care that her lifes a mess (this may sound harsh, its her own fault, she was caught playing around again and it's hard to help her justify herself to make her feel better about herself)

We haven't spoke since, even though I explained I couldn't talk as my boss was there, she knew I was at work, so what did she want me to do, drop everything and tell her what she wanted to hear.

I just want to know if I was wrong to tell her to grow up, in my defence she does this weekly and to our 87 yr old granda and I don't think its fair? So aibu?

[ssd]

of course not

she sounds a complete arse

[danteV]

No she sounds like a pain. You were at work and tbh if she is looking for you to help justify her cheating and you don't feel comfortable with that, its tough titties for her.
I hate cheating and wouldn't sit an help someone justify their shitty behaviour.
She needs to realise she has to deal with the consequences of her actions and that everyone else life doesn't revolve around making her feel better.

[CrispyCod]

She sounds very emotionally immature.

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

danteV

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

Sorry danteV small child touched phone, was just going to say I am glad you agree that she is needing reasurrance for her behaviour.

And crispycod, would you believe she is 37! So yeah, she totally immature. That is why I just had to tell her to grow up, she does my head in!

[Paiviaso]

YANBU.

[diddl]

If the boss was nearby-or even if they weren´t & you just couldn´t be arsed-just tell her-"at work, can´t talk".

I´d enjoy the no contact whilst it lasts!

[CleoSmackYa]

Leave the bastard! (YANBU)

[Tartymuffin]

I wouldn't have even listened whilst I was at work - if there is an immediate issue requiring a response then fine, but for a chat? Um no. And after telling her that I would have said bye and hung up before she had chance.

I cba with people who are so wrapped up in themselves that they believe the rest of the world should drop everything when they require attention, even if they are at work. It's rude and selfish.

I'd be inclined to ring her back, give her the riot act about how selfish she is without giving her chance to speak - and then hanging up on her to show her just how bloody annoying it is. But then I'm childish like that lol!

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

Can you believe she txt today all nicey nice as if the incident had never happened! Clearly her and her OH are playing happy families again, till the weekend when 1 of them has too much to drink and it all starts again.

I'm going to sarcastically say was there an apology in that txt just I can't seem to find 1! Sick of hearing how her life is rubbish when she brings it on herself!!

Am I doing the right thing or should I make her sweat a bit tee hee hee

[AgentZigzag]

What would she do if you were the one doing the hanging up 2much?

I'm guessing it wouldn't go down well and you'd be being totally unreasonable?

Do it.

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

You sound arsey.

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

You haven't got her as a sister...

[2rebecca]

I think you should have your mobile on silent when at work so she goes to voicemail and you can answer in your own time. Chatting to relatives about non emergencies when at work is very unprofessional.
You both sound a bit huffy. If you don't like her stop talking to her as often and decide to end conversations yourself sometimes instead of waiting for her to end them.

[DontmindifIdo]

Don't reply. Or send her a message along hte lines of "I can't take personal calls at work, if it's not an emergancy, can you wait to call until I'm home."

If she does call you again at work, stop her and say "Is it important? I'm at work and can't chat." eventually she'll get it.

[2muchtimeonmyhands]

I wish it was that simple, she acctually rang the ward phone, then I txt her when I was on my break. I have tried to explain that we cant take personal call, to the point I had colleagues saying I was on a different ward for the day if she rang.

I rang her today when I was on my break, told a little white lie and said my ward manager had recieved complaints of personal calls being taken whilst on duty. She apologised. Just hope it deters her from calling again.

Fingers crossed!

[numbertaker]

YANBU totally out of order on work time.