I'm saying this a little tongue in cheek as I realise other people do... But I'm just so exhausted with ds 8 weeks that I have completely lost all interest and desire for sex, much to the hurt of my dh...
Ds doesn't sleep hardly at all, day or night. Maybe 3 hours a day not all at once, and wakes for hours at a time at night. Not even crying, just wide awake wanting to play, fidgeting, grunting. I can't (and wouldn't) ignore him to sleep (as he seems happy enough) because he's very noisy and wakes us all up! So I'm up with him most of the night walking about with him etc. I do all the stuff you're supposed to - dark room, no stimulation, no talking - sod it all nothing works. And dd was a gina ford baby sleeping 7-7 from about 12 weeks so this is a massive shock.
Dh does help with ds - he does some night feeds if he hasn't got a really difficult day at work due and he let's me have a lie in / early night on days off...
But none of its helping. I have zero sex drive. And this is someone who used to have sex every day!!!
Dh and I have talked and he feels there is no intimacy between us :( (its having a knock on effect emotionally too as we are just too tired to make time for each other). But even though I know this I still can't change the situation.
How do other marriages / couples survive this? We are struggling to maintain our closeness but at the same time we are just so tired :(
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Wigglewoo · 11/08/2012 08:38
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