I mean when somebody wants to get in touch, doesn't get an immediate response and so PUSHES. Recent examples:
- In the run up to my due date my cousin has text 'any news?' and when I didn't reply the next day I got another text: 'well?'
Well, I didn't reply in the first place because we're not at all close cousins and I know she only wants to know just to 'know' so she can be the one to tell others. Anyway, I knew I had to reply but didn't get round to it on the day. But now I've got the 'well?' I'm really digging my heels in! If I had had the baby and hadn't replied can't she see I might have more important things than texting to focus on?
- Another example is a friend who when I don't immediately reply to messages will do what feels like 'stalking' me on facebook - e.g. another friend put up a picture and tagged me in it, and I 'liked' it - then original friend commented on second friend's photo (who she does not know) 'did you get my message?' i.e. I see you've interacted with another person, and I'm going to tell you I can see this so that you feel pressure to get back to me, now!
- I've stopped answering the phone to another friend as she won't let me off the phone once I'm on! It will literally be hours and hours on the line, then when I do get up the gumption to say 'actually I've got to go because DH has just cooked dinner' she'll respond 'ok, well I'll give you a call back in an hour'. Stopping answering doesn't stop the calling though - she just calls and calls again.
What makes me wonder AIBU is a) I quite like some of the people who do this, e.g. the facebook 'i can see you' one is a wonderful friend in every other way; b) when I tell dh how it really puts my back up he doesn't get it at all and says 'she just wants to hear from you' and also he tries to get me to do the same thing quite often - e.g. if I text somebody I don't get a reply he'll say 'well give them a call!' Well to my mind they've got my text and will reply when they want to - following it up with a call is just pushiness, no?