DS & I were away for 4 nights. DP chose not to come with us & to stay home with the dog. All fine, I thought - he'd have some peace & quiet & we'd have a nice break (only 45 mins down the road but still, away from home etc).
In those 4 days, DP baked a cake, hoovered & went to the dump.
When we returned home, there was mouldy bread in the kitchen, a box of mouldy bagels, stale crisps, out of date stuff in the fridge.
The following morning, DP was lovely and got up with DS (I have suspected Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and had been very unwell before I went away) so I could have a lie-in. I was very grateful. I got up at about 9, we went to the supermarket etc. On the way back I asked DS what he'd had for breakfast... nothing. No drink or anything. Why couldn't DP have fed DS? It was about 11.30 - I know it didn't hurt DS but still
AIBU to expect DP to notice these things? He could have frozen the bagels before they went moudly, or fed the bread to the chickens or replaced the tissues or put butter in the butter dish or got DS to have a drink...
I got cross with DP and shouted at him (I know I shouldn't have) & he's now stuttering, saying he's depressed. This has been an issue in the not too distant past but he was happy, smiley & speaking normally til I got cross.
In the 2 1/2 years we've been together, he's not once cooked me a proper meal. He's occasionally made soup (when I've written down strict instructions) and used to bake cakes.
DP doesn't work, doesn't contribute to household finances etc... aibu to expect him to contribute more to the house in other ways?
I'm really pissed off so am perfectly happy for you to say i abu, I just needed to rant.
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Grockle · 31/07/2012 19:07
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