This could be long, sorry.
DD2 has just finished reception. She settled in well, no problems all year that I know of, is bright, works hard, bevhaves well in class. Parents evening feed back was all very positive, as was her end of year report, she's doing very well and I couldn't be happier with her.
Her school has one of these 'stars of the week' schemes, one child from each class gets a certificate and pinbadge thing each week, name in the newsletter etc. They also have to go to the headteacher to collect the pinbadge and write their name in the goldbook. There are 30 children in the class and 40 school weeks in the year.
DD2 didn't get a star of the week all year. DD1 has always gotten one every year, 2 in the last 2 years. DD2 is not the only child who hasn't gotten star of the week because the school is quite unusual in that they do NOT give one to every child, it's for good work all week and so the naughty/lazy children don't get one if they don't put in the effort. They do, however, have a seperate reward system for these children, so they are rewarded for behaviour good for them IYSWIM.
To my knowledge DD2 hasn't been put on a seperate system, I've been told her behaviour is excellent and she's working very well academically. I've told her that she's not to worry about it ( she was very upset ) and that the teacher is probably trying to spur on the children who aren't doing as well as her and thinks she is grown up enough to work hard because she wants to, not for a certificate and a pin badge. This cheered her up.
DD2 missed the last 2 days of term because my dad suddenly became ill, we went to visit and he lives abroad. School were very understanding and said they would post end of term letters and whatnot home.
So we got home today to find in amongst the usual letters, a letter from the headteacher telling me that: I am very disappointed and concerned that I haven't had the chance to congratulate your child on their achievement this year or enter their name in the gold book'- because she hasn't been given the star of the week all year. It seems that this is the generic letter sent home to children who haven't behaved/tried hard enough to get the star of the week to tell the parents the school are concerned about their achievement. Apparently we will be getting a meeting in September to discuss DD2 and why she ' is not making the progress expected at this stage'. In the meantime, he suggests I see DD2's report to clarify where the areas of concern lie so I can help her with behaviour etc.
There is NOTHING on DD2's report to suggest her behaviour is poor, nothing in parent-teacher book, she has targets but all academic and she's already working above average at this stage. I don't understand what she's done wrong, I read it and sat down and cried (pregnant and hormonal) .
AIBU to be upset and wondering what DD2 and I are meant to be doing that we're not already?
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Anaalabama · 30/07/2012 15:06
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