FB ranting!!!

[soozeedol]

I've just posted a ranting message to all my so called friends and I feel better for it!!!
I've asked them to unfriend me as I am sick and tired of guessing whether they are actually friends or they are just lurking there in my life, passing 'likes' and comments when it suits them and pissing me off!!

I was going to close my FB account but that would have meant I wouldn't have contact with some family members, etc so it seemed better to just request that 'others' take themselves off my friend list for lack of any friendship between us...especially 2/3 of them that I'm pretty sure are just lurking/gossiping anyway...

I'm fed up of the subtle insinuations and insults that seem to fly about, the 'rubbing it in' hidden agenda's and stupid immature 2 faced attitudes...I see it daily on posts and occasionally towards me too and I'm heart sick of it....

Does anyone else feel like this with FB at times...It's seems so easy to become a knock for knock, slagging, nasty place between some people....it's bad I feel and I want no part of it anymore...it's so destructive

[Catsmamma]

Goodness....if it vexes you that much why not just close it down and leave....why the drama?

I think you are going to be sorely disappointed when everyone takes you at your word.

And as for "when it suits them" surely you realise other people have lives and are not hanging on every morsel you leave.

[cocoachannel]

How strange. Why not just delete the people you don't want contact with?

[picnicbasketcase]

Just deactivate your account. To post a long rant trying to get people to delete you is just silly.

[pumpkinsweetie]

Either close it down on delete the people you don't see as 'friends'.

[GateGipsy]

did you really actually just want to have a go at all of them instead? Because frankly you are so unbelievably unreasonable doing this you've probably disappeared up your own behind.

Do what NORMAL people do. Remove them from your friend list.

And then grow up.

[Pancakeflipper]

Why don't you 'unfriend' the people you are cross with? Why are you asking them to do it? Is that to create more drama or your way of letting them know you are pissed off with them? Are you wanting them to say sorry and 'like' you.

Take some control and make your account how you want it.

Or do as suggested already and shut it down.

[katykuns]

Surely just deleting the two faced people would be less stress for you?

I have come across some idiots on facebook... some that expect me to hang on their every word, some that have written snipey comments on my statuses. I just remove them, facebook is for my friends and family to contact me and look at pics of my little ones... anyone that doesn't really fit that can be removed.

Same with people that post dramatic statuses (like yours probably was) or are just attention seeking... I just hide it so I don't see it. It's easy no?

[TheEnglishWomanInTheAttic]

Another one who doesn't understand why you don't just delete them. Do you think that everyone you are friends with has a duty to read and respond to your every post? Do you do that in return?

I thought this was going to be a post about being sick of reading other people's FB rants and saying AIBU to delete the ranters even if I like them IRL, or similar :)

[WorraLiberty]

What a Drama Queen you are!

It's your account, if you don't want them on it then defriend them

Or would that be too sensible and you wouldn't get the inevitable "Ooh are you ok 'hun'? What's up?"

[SaltResistantSlug]

You around like you're expecting all your friends to "like" everything you say. But that's the point if the "like" function, isn't it - to "like" what you actually... "like".

[SaltResistantSlug]

*sound

[MamaMaiasaura]

Is this an opposite AIBU? Or a one I don't have any goats

[usualsuspect]

Are you 15?

[MammaTJ]

Just going to check my FB, if I see that status I will delete you! Not because I lurk and gossip but because I don't need immature ramblings cluttering up my news feed.

[Pancakeflipper]

Are you ok Sooz ? Is this FB thingy just the tip of an iceberg regarding friendships and relationships? Just asking cos' it's an odd thing to get so worked up about that you start a thread about it - unless you are 14.

[soozeedol]

I suppose I am feeling very upset and probably not being very reasonable...I must be guilty of BU because I am angry and upset so shouted my mouth off and it made me feel better a bit....
most likely I am fully deserving of critizism and being called names and what not...my apologies for being so stupid and behaving so badly

Maybe I have a serious lack of confidence and my faith in some people has been sorely tested and I've handled things the wrong way

I'm not perfect, probably need to see doc and get some counselling for my outburst and suspected madness

perhaps nobody is responsible for my feeling like this and I've put myself in this position and deserve to be miserable and a right sad bastard really....

apologies...I will take my feelings and stuff them in a box and not expect to air them again....
thanks for the replies and all that...learnt my lesson

[Pancakeflipper]

Now that is a dramatic post Sooz - leave this post and get off the AIBU section and go and post what is really going on in your life in the areas that do support - relationships and mental health.

[MamaMaiasaura]

Seeking help sounds good. Be grateful that this is the only thing upsetting. If you read some current threads perhaps you'll gain some perspective

[MammaTJ]

Sooze having just gone and had a look at some of your posts in relationships, I understand a bit more why you are feeling like this. It would still be better to just delete them, rather than a rant.

[SweetBetty]

Really? Come ON.

[susiemumof]

The irony of your rant is not lost on me!

[HecateHarshPants]

What did you really want from your fb friends?

Because if it was about them not being your facebook friends any more - you could have done that from your end. Unfriend them. Job done.

The fact that you chose instead to make an announcement asking them to unfriend you says a lot. It's not about not wanting to be facebook friends, is it?

You wanted them to know that they've 'wronged' you in some way? Wanted apologies? Promises to treat you better? Them asking you to forgive them?

Did that happen or did they just delete you as requested?

If they are behaving in a way that you are unhappy with, you have every right to say so. You can never be wrong for standing up and saying hang on, I don't like this, you do not have the right to treat me like this...

But you would just get a lot further with that if you could be calm and assertive about it. This way, they have the option of dismissing you as hysterical and/or attention seeking, instead of being made to look at how they have treated you from your point of view and taking time to think about whether in fact you are right.

If that makes any sense.

[SoleSource]

Sooz There you are, I have missed my PM buddy x

[soozeedol]

yea, it's been a long slow simmer with lots of things going on for me and DS...I think I may have reached a break point...I think I probably need to seek help and sort myself out.....

I hate being pathetic and silly...feel like an idiot now...head case!
feels like I've lost the plot
my perspective is fairly clear...think my reserves are running low right now...crept up on me...

I'm off to get my act together...this is an unusual state of being for me...I'm always the strong and in control one...I don't like this at all...

sorry I did this to myself now...wrong place for being nutterish like this