Hi I'm new so bear with me.
Quck backstory: i have 3 children (7, 4, almost ten months). Two of those are with an XP. During our relationship he was emotionally and mentally abusive. He would often go out and come back in the early hours with friends and start a party (despite having DS and me being PG with DD1) He would never put our needs first and considered the drink and weed his first love. It was at this point, whilst pg with DD1 I decided to up and leave. I'd had enough and it was not the environment I wanted for my kids.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago - I recieve a letter from XP's solicitor. He states me as being unreasonable and wanting regular contact with his kids.
I have never been unreasonable. He's had every oppertunity to see the children but has done so when he's felt like it. DD1 is five this year and her dad has only met her 4 times. She doesn't know him at all.
I've said it's fine for him to see them but only in a contact centre because they don't know who he is. He is not happy with this and is threatening to take me to court for unsupervised.
DS has ADHD and I am awaiting for a referal as they suspect he has aspergers. I've sent letters to his mum and dad's explaining about DS's condition as I feel he has a right to know - I have heard nothing back. I can't even send anything to him as he doesn't stay in an address long enough.
AIBU about only wanting supervised contact in a contact centre to begin with? I have no problem with it leading to unsupervised as long as he shows he no longer dabbles or drinks in excess and that he'll stick to regular visits and not just stop when he gets bored.
Sorry I know this is long.
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Huffles · 04/07/2012 19:36
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