Bit of a back story here: me and my DD's father broke up when she was three months old. Ever since then he has given me maintenance for her every other thursday and has only missed payments when he has been out of work and couldn't afford to give me anything, instead his wife (married when my DD was 2) gave me half of what he paid me and my DDs dad would get her anything she needed (and get a tenners worth of shopping for my home a week. More than acceptable and up until yesterday there has only ever been one instance where he hasn't done what was arranged and one time where he didn't bacs transfer the money over.
So far very acceptable... However, yesterday was my DD's birthday and the day where I was expecting the maintenance. As I've had some personal finance issues over the past few weeks I've not been able to put any money away for her birthday. So I budgeted putting this payment away and taking her for a pamper day (she turned 8 and is getting into things like having her nails painted, having a style in her hair etc).
Early yesterday I went on to internet banking to transfer some money in from another account and the maintenance wasn't there... I phoned her dad for an explanation and he told me that he wasn't getting paid this week due to some reason and he wouldn't be able to transfer anything until monday... I asked him if he knew he wasn't getting paid and he said "yeh, of course" so I asked him why he didn't let me know? He said he had thought about it but decided against it. I have made him aware of the situation I am in and when he saw out DD this weekend I asked him if he wanted to contribute to any of our plans and he agreed to pay towards having her ears pierced and said he would 'just lump it in with thursdays money'
Needless to say, yesterday my DD was upset that we had to spend all morning trying and begging family to help and luckily I managed to get enough money towards the day and we had a good day in the end.
I'm just peeved that she very nearly didn't get the day she wanted, thanks to her father being an idiot...
Sorry this is so long and ranty, but I don't think I am bu to expect to made awaare of things like this??
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ithastobeNAICEham · 08/06/2012 13:22
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