To cut a long story short, a couple of years ago I fell out with my cousin after she had behaved appallingly towards me. Tbh, she had been looking down on me my whole life but since her mum always did the same and my mum never did anything about it when I was little, I just accepted the status quo and thought they were right, that I wasn't as good as them. In fact, my cousin used to be one of my best friends.
The huge fall-out came after my cousin had stayed with us for a holiday and DH took her aside on the way to the airport to tell her that he would no longer accept her treatment of me and that she wasn't welcome in our home anymore until she apologized for how she behaved during her stay.
Now, the woman is in her mid thirties so you'd think that this is her issue and has nothing to do with her mum (but then her mum who's almost 70! still does all her laundry by hand! and cooks her a 3 course meal everyday) but my aunt took it personally so now she hates my DH as well. Fair enough.
Earlier this year, our DD was born and while both my cousin and aunt got over themselves and send me a card and gift, the cards were very obviously only addressed to me, not aknowledging DH in the slightest. Also fair enough.
But now my mum keeps telling me about snide remarks my aunt and cousin are making about my DD. I don't know what exactly they are saying as my mum is notoriously bad for repeating stories iykwim and I have to prise information out of her. I think they are jeaolus. DD is my granny's first great grandchild and since she has bad dementia, she will be the only one that granny consciously gets to meet in a few weeks and so she carries around a few pictures of DD and proudly talks about her. It's lovely.
We live in the UK but I'm from abroad and while I go home for a few weeks in the summer DD will be christened. My mum insists on my aunt and cousin being invited and since I'm also inviting my dad's siblings I only thought it was right. But last night my mum admitted that my aunt and cousin had again said something snippy about DD, DH and me at a recent family gathering and I'm now starting to think that no, actually, why should DD have someone at her christening who openly dislikes her. I mean, who dislikes a baby ffs? The other thing is that my mum never protected me from my aunt's attutide of being superior which lead to huge issues of feeling inferior for me and I want to shield my DD from that. I want to make a stand, be a parent and say that only people who care about this baby whould be part of her christening.
Am I being unreasonable?
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MrsHuxtable · 02/06/2012 10:50
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