To be in shock four hour later

(491 Posts)
Rhinosaurus Tue 01-May-12 11:17:00

This morning, my son - the 15 year old

........ who cannot get out of bed.
........who misses two school buses a week because he gets out of bed at 0750 (bus leaves at 0800).
........who sits on the sofa and stuffs food wrappers down the side rather than walk across the room to the bin.
.........who goes to put something in the dishwasher, but when he sees it is full of clean stuff having just finished its cycle, stacks plates and cups up on the worktop waiting for someone else to empty it.
.........who puts clean clothes in the laundry basket rather than fold them up and put them away.

was downstairs in the kitchen today, dressed in school uniform, at 0730, emptying the dishwasher with a cup of tea made for me on the table.....
confusedshockconfusedshockconfusedshockconfusedshock

Is he on drugs?

Is there a major unreasonable request coming up, requiring girding of the loins......

Help!

MySweetPrince Fri 04-May-12 13:10:59

Couldn't type for a bit as my screen has gone all blurry and I appear to have something in my eye....poor Dave but what a wonderful son you have Rhino..be proud.....smile

SpringHeeledJack Fri 04-May-12 13:34:10

the sweetest thing is realising that they can be utter bastards Kevins at home, but still look after each other

oh god am off again

Jax

This website might help
www.ibuckinghamshire.co.uk/local/charities-and-voluntary-organisations/3/

Maybe something like this.

www.wycombeyouthaction.co.uk/

Don't feel under pressure to do anything. I just wanted to show that there are other ways you can make a positive contribution to young peoples' lives without the scale of commitment that foster care requires.

CinnyCall Fri 04-May-12 14:49:18

Just read my own msg and wanted to clarify that when I said it was good to hear of a situation where the teens are the good guys - that I know there is nothing unusual in teens being decent, but that it was good to hear of an example, because in the media teens get such a bad rap.

fenellamae Fri 04-May-12 16:08:27

Bum, posted after reading first page, thinking it was today. Am a complete fuckwit must take more vitamin D. Ignore me please.

Rhinosaurus Fri 04-May-12 17:33:48

The only thing which concerns me is what if they had hid one of their mates who had nice caring parents, but had run away over a trivial thing like not being allowed on Xbox until 3am? Would they have done the same thing?

fuzzpig Fri 04-May-12 17:38:46

How rare for a thread to be both heartbreaking and heartwarming.

Well, your lovely boy might be back to his lie-ins and crusty pants, but I bet the appreciation for you sticks. I reckon when somebody is such a good friend, they don't lose that.

Rhino, I don't honestly think they would have done - they are old enough, and seem sensible enough, to differentiate between the "yeah, parents are bastards, hard luck, now go home" type situation and the "that's really shit and you CAN'T go home" type one which was what happened. [hopeful]

...anyway, if it had been a teen with parents who gave a damn they would have been on the phone and other parents would have been interrogating questioning their own Kevins and one of them would have cracked. It's only because poor old Dave has crap parents that it took as long as it did for the fact that he was "missing" to come to your attention, after all.

giraffesCantDonateBoneMarrow Fri 04-May-12 18:51:41

aww

alarkaspree Fri 04-May-12 19:43:10

I think only a teenage boy having a really shit time at home would be willing to spend three days in a tent in a rainy field. The sulking-over-xbox type would have gone home when he got hungry and bored.

WhoremoaneeGrainger Fri 04-May-12 21:22:20

Aw Rhino. You should be so so proud. And poor Dave. What a sad life those boys must have had at home.

BackforGood Sat 05-May-12 15:54:36

AW, Rhino, you must be so proud of your ds.
I started reading the thread, ticking all the boxes for his "normal" behaviours, comparing with my (soon to be 16 yr old) ds, but filled up when I read what really happened.
Going to give my ds an extra hug when I pick him up later today obviously not in front of his mates, thinking about poor Dave.
I hope he stays local and is able to stay in touch with his great friends.

ReindeerBollocks Sat 05-May-12 16:57:49

I was not expecting that! At least he has the right sense of values, to be helping his friend. Surely they must have all realised how scary this situation was for Dave? I doubt they'd gone to the same trouble if it was an Xbox wielding friend with poor behaviour. Sounds like they understood the serious nature of Daves predicament.

At least Dave is away from his parents and has great mates who will keep him in school while his life is chaotic.

You raised a good'un there Rhino. It must be nice to know he is heading towards sensible adult, even if there will be more teenage mishaps along the way probably including the big booted blonde girl from the village

Lemele Sat 05-May-12 21:01:34

Such a lovely thread; all the best for Dave and well done to Kevin and friends.

It's refreshing to read something positive about teenagers (boys particularly). There's a big train of thought that just because boys tend to keep sensitive things hidden they must be nothing but pains in the neck. I'm from a large family and my younger brothers are just going through their teenage years now, and it's fascinating to see just how lovely they are despite their outward appearances. I can't wait for my own boys to grow up! (Currently 23 months, 1 month and 1 month, so a little while yet... grin )

Fimbo Mon 07-May-12 19:14:28

Ah maybe your Kev will turn out okay then Rhino, he was trying to stick by his mate. Such a shame for poor Dave though.

Thumbwitch Tue 08-May-12 13:11:29

Rhino, have just found this thread and read it all through - your Kevin and all his mates have been brilliant to look after Dave so well, good lads all of them.
Shame his run of exemplary behaviour has stopped but it's probably more comfortable having the old-style Kevin back again, isn't it?

Poor Dave - I hope he is allowed to come and stay with you some weekends. What a horrible situation his homelife must have been sad

I bet you hugged all your DC that bit tighter when you found out. You should be extremely proud of Kevin though - he's a great mate to have.

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