What would you have done? Paying for friend.

[Alligatorpie]

my friend took my dd one day when I had to work- my dd and her dd play really well together and they really only call someone when they need feeding. We do lots of play dates at each others houses and the girls are no problem at all.
I offered to take her for a pedicure as a thank you, she won't take money as she says it is easier to have my dd as then her dd has a playmate.
She is a lovely person.
We went for pedicures and had a great chat. She also decided to get her eyebrows and upper lip done. She said she would pay for them, but I said it was my treat.
Would you have paid or everything, or just the pedicure? I don't mind paying, I actually thought I would thank her by getting more than just the pedicure, i just wondered what others think. Cheers!

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

If you felt that you wanted to pay for everything then that's fine, whatever is right for you is the right decision :)

[valiumredhead]

I'd have paid too. You sound like a nice friend :)

[mollymole]

I do not understand your question
She said she would pay for them
You said it was your treat
So why are you asking if you should have paid when she offered to pay and you declined

[Sparklingbrook]

I think it was lovely that you paid and I am sure she thought so too.

[lisad123]

Well you offered. She said she would pay for the extras she had done, you said you would pay for them all.
I'm not quite sure what you are asking here?

[curiositykitten]

I wouldn't have paid. I wouldn't have taken her for a pedicure in the first place. I wouldn't have offered her cash either, tbh. I'd have just offered to have her DD one day in return.

[Shinyshoes1]

for the price of the lip wax and eyebrow wax, I'm guessing a tenner on top, if it was part of an afternoon of beauty treatments I 'd have paid for it all.
for her.

A friend help us move house, I paid for the evening out , I paid for his cinema ticket and his meal when we and another friend went out for a curry

[knowitallstrikesagain]

YABU. I would have paid for a full body wax and some new open toed shoes to show off her nails and taken her out for dinner.

[MissFaversham]

Ahh, are you saying that you think she should have declined your kind offer and insisted that she paid?

[Shinyshoes1]

BUT Like poster said, I wouldn't do this EVERYTIME, i'd offer to have her child next time

[Mumofthreeteens]

How nice of you to have offered and to have paid. I am sure your friend is very grateful as you must be to her for looking after your dd.

I went out yesterday for a drink with two gfs. When it came to pay I put in £10 and gf1 put in £5. When the gf2 offered some money gf1 said 'no don't worry' and then promptly pocketed the change!! I was so suprised I didn't say anything! Would you?

[overmydeadbody]

Mumofthreeteens of course you should have said something! Why did you say nothing?!

[Monty27]

What is the question and why AIBU?

[Floggingmolly]

Mumofthreeteens. I would have had to say something. The sheer brass neck of it! . Did friend 2 not notice?
Maybe they were in cahoots and it was pre-planned

[Floggingmolly]

Op, yes it was nice of you, I'd have done the same.

[Mumofthreeteens]

Sorry I lost the thread!
I think I was so suprised and were all in a rush heading out that I just decided to leave it. Gf1 perhaps just made a mistake. I'll get her to buy me a drink another time and will remember not to put in the lions share of the money next time!

[sooperdooper]

If you didn't actually want to pay the extra you should've have offered and she'd have been happy with the pedicure as you originally offered, I'm not sure I undertand

[sooperdooper]

*shouldn't have offered I mean :)

[ImperialBlether]

I don't understand the question. IS there a question? It sounds like a stealth boast, to me!

[gabsid]

I would have paid for it too.

But if I was your friend I would have stuck to what was offered and if I wanted other things too I would have come another time.

Because she will offer to pay for the extra and you won't let her as it was a treat, that was quite predictable - but you now feel a bit used maybe? Wonder, whether you should have paid, it would have been a bit odd, both of you fiddling with money when it was meant to be your treat. You are thinking about it anyway.

[Monty27]

Imperial my sentiments exactly.

A self praise aren't I wonderfully kind thread.

[BackforGood]

Like curiosity I wouldn't have taken her for the pedicure either. As she said, it's easier for her, with your dd there to entertain her for the day. Friends help each other out when they can. The "proper" ettiquette in this situation (IMVHO) is to be available when your friend needs helping out (and, of course, expect no reward for that).

[Spamspamspam]

Now I know I should just close the thread but I am intrigued as to why anyone would post this? What is the point/agenda/question? What if your friend happens to be a member of mums net ands reads it, you would look like a prize numpty then! Gah!!!

[Sandalwood]

I can have your DD if your friend's ever busy.

[diddl]

I´d have paid for the extras-assuming that was OK with her & not boasted on here about it.