To want a black wedding ring?

[ComposHat]

I discussed this with the fairly soon to be MrsComposhat. I would quite like a wedding ring, but don't particularly like gold or platinum rings as I think they look a bit shiny and flashy and don't really suit me. I did however see some black wedding rings that I thought looked less blingy.

I put this to the soon to be MrsC and she howled with laughter, claiming I'd look like the world's oldest emo and in a few years time it would look absurd. Does she have a point?

I thought a plain black band like this one

www.geti.cc/index.php?option=com_hikashop&ctrl=product&task=show&cid=10382&name=4004b&Itemid=135&category_pathway=17&related_product=10445

[TheFeministsWife]

I like it, I'd have one and I'm pretty sure DH would too. If we could afford to.

[troisgarcons]

screams at the black ring thread memory

Sorry but I think black looks a bit hello there, sailor - never mind the asexual aspect

[YellowDinosaur]

My dh has a titanium ring. It isn't black though but definitely less shiny than traditional wedding bands and really nice.

Personally i'm not a fan of the ones you linked to but if that's what you like I think that's your choice and totally fair enough.

[AgentZigzag]

I like it.

But I think you'll have to come to a compromise with the Fairly Soon To Be MrsC.

It doesn't matter what it looks like to other people so long as you can both be happy with whatever you choose.

It probably doesn't have any bearing on the matter, but are you a pretty conventional person? Are you having a traditional wedding? (thinking of why she might not be into the ring).

[hiddenhome]

You can get non shiny plantinum rings.

[joanofarchitrave]

hmm. have you considered rose gold or something like that? e.g. [http://www.silverandstone.co.uk/html/chunky_wedding_ring.html here]]

[ComposHat]

Yep you are right! I'd forgotten that thread. But isn't that on the middle finger of the right hand for asexuals?

A fair proportion of the other 866 things I learned from MN I wished I could unlearn. Munting being the most recent example of things I was happier being ignorant about!

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

When I saw black wedding ring I was going to suggest a black wedding dress (I would have loved one)
But then I sussed you are a bloke.

So you probably won't want a wedding dress, black or otherwise.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I think you can't get titanium resized so you had better not gain or lose any weight. The one you linked to is too rounded for me. Although it will be nice to spot all the MNers because of the asexual looks you will get.

[PurpleRomanesco]

Yes, Apparently wearing a black ring on your middle finger (?) signifies you are asexual.

I think the ring you have chosen is beautiful, DH agrees and is now considering it too! It's not emo at all.

[PurpleRomanesco]

DF*

Getting ahead of myself there!

[ComposHat]

Sorry but I think black looks a bit hello there, sailor - never mind the asexual aspect

She also made that point too. The wedding isn't a church and meringue do, I will probably be waering a suit and she will be wearing a 50s style ra ra dress. (I think!)

joan the rosegold looks a lot less blingy that white or yellow gold, more muted. I like it.

[thenightsky]

I like that one you linked to. Wasn't aware of asexual message sending till I read rest of thread though.

[ComposHat]

think you can't get titanium resized so you had better not gain or lose any weight

O'er, that is a bit of a pain, I can be a bit Oprah in that respect!

[FredFredGeorge]

Some titanium can be enlarged a couple of sizes pretty readily - although not as readily as your high street jeweller will do. Others are more complicated.

I have a titanium ring, it's dull, it was cheap, and it's every bit a symbol as anything else. Black wouldn't be my thing, but don't see anything wrong with it, doubt you'll look much like a really old emo unless you go with more of the look.

[flapjacks]

I think soontobeMrsComposHat needs to like it too, as after all, she's going to be giving it to you during the ceremony i.e. it's a gift of her love to you etc etc. If she's not keen on it then perhaps best not to go with it ...

[ComposHat]

You are right flap I think we need to find a middle ground!

[EvenBetter]

My darling husband doesn't agree with the precious metal industry and is also an athiest & lover of science, he got a Tungsten ring (it's the metal that's inside a lightbulb), it's super strong, doesn't scratch or tarnish and is dark grey. It was £35 online :D

[EvenBetter]

P.s. It's a 'symbol of' her love to you, it'll be part of the wonderful vows and you'll be wearing it for the rest of your life, get one you like and suits you!

[tethersend]

I think you should fashion one yourself out of granite.

[2kidsintow]

Black rings used to be a sign of mourning for the loss of your spouse. (Rather a long time ago, tbh, though)

[ComposHat]

Yes 2kids Victorian mourning jewellery was made out of jet wasn't it?

tether or I could crack open a bag of Haribo.

[startail]

I don't see why not, if it suits you and mrs C doesn't mind.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

I would just have the word Taken tattooed across your forehead.

In black ink if you prefer