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AIBU?

to have my dear friend over but...

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PufftyMagicDragon · 07/03/2012 09:59

Im currently in the grasps of morning sickness and one of the few people i really dont mind seeing me in a crappy state is my friend. I invited her over last week.

we get on well and are comftable around one another to the point we dont need to have a massive tidy (to an extent) before we visit each other.

should i need to run upstairs and be sick she is happy to look after dc and laugh about it.
Please bear in mind shes coming over whilst dh is at work and will be gone before hes home.

however Dh wants his friends over tonight and i Do mind them seeing me in an awful state. they are lovely people but I'd rather see them when im feeling better. I dont really feel comftable about it but i told DH its up to him

AIBU?

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sparkle12mar08 · 07/03/2012 10:00

YANBU to not want to see them, but you shouldn't have told dh that it was up to him if that's the case. Alternatively take yourself off up to bed early with a good book/dvd/cd whatever, and leave them to it.

Shutupanddrive · 07/03/2012 10:01

If your not well then why can't DH entertain his own friends while you have a bath/lie down if your not feeling well. You don't have to be in the same room if you don't want to be. You might feel a bit better by then. Will they be staying long?

imnotmymum · 07/03/2012 10:01

Are they just his friends or yours too ??

TheRhubarb · 07/03/2012 10:03

I suppose it's his home too and he has asked you first. I would pop my head round the door to say hello, explain you aren't feeling terribly well and then disappear for the rest of the night watching crappy TV and throwing up

PufftyMagicDragon · 07/03/2012 10:05

mainly his friends, i dont really have much in common with them at all asides from knowing my Dh and that we have children.

I may go off and relax for the evening whilst they are here.

DH is a pain in the arse sometimes. Everytime im ill he insists i go out and see people it drives me nuts (he means well, he really dose. its his one flaw)

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randommoment · 07/03/2012 10:06

What Rhubarb says. Hope you stop vomming soon!

imnotmymum · 07/03/2012 10:07

I am guilty of this as well I am afraid. If the kids are ill for a few days after a day I am like oh lets go out it will make you feel better, maybe that what he thinks take your mind of the sickness. See how you feel

PufftyMagicDragon · 07/03/2012 10:09

Ive taken Rhubarbs advice and suggested I say hello and then go upstairs for a bath and a rest. I think hes annoyed i dont want to see them though!

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imnotmymum · 07/03/2012 10:11

mmm I think I would be tbh. Might seem rude

TheRhubarb · 07/03/2012 10:13

Well just tell him that you'll stay for longer with a bucket by your side so you can vomit every now and then, I'm sure they wouldn't mind! After all, what's a bit of vomit between friends eh?

Wait until he's ill, properly ill, then invite your friends round and insist that he stays with you all, see how he likes it! I suspect that sometimes they think we make up pregnancy symptoms just so we can laze around.

BigGirlInASmallWorld · 07/03/2012 10:14

YANBU
You aren't going to feel like doing much this evening. You have no alternative but to do what Rhubarb said.

I hope the sickness fucks the fuck off to fucksville and when it gets there fucks off some more!

:)

SarahBumBarer · 07/03/2012 10:16

YANBU - I felt like death in the evening when I had MS. No way would I be entertaining friends, entertaining DS until bedtime was my absolute limit.

PufftyMagicDragon · 07/03/2012 10:17

The thing is it gets really awkward. Dh and his mate get on fine but his friends DW and i, well, again all we have in common is DH and DCs.

Last time we went to see her she said afterwards that i didnt like her even though id been chatting away to her all day and trying to find common ground

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BigGirlInASmallWorld · 07/03/2012 10:21

Well maybe you are not suited. We can't get on or feel comfortable with everyone as you know. Maybe there was a misunderstanding on her/your part.

If things are awkward ask DH to meet his friend at the pub/restaurant etc in future. Awkward and obvious but got to start somewhere if you and the other woman find it difficult to find common ground.

imnotmymum · 07/03/2012 10:22

Well can the DH and friend go down the pub for a pint and catch up then if it is awkard between you two? Why do they have to visit, you will definitely give the impression you do not like her if you do not "entertain" them and if she is as childish as that then that is sooo funny

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