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AIBU To think my neighbour should mind his own beeswax & WWYD?

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GavisconJunkie · 26/02/2012 19:21

Knock at the door today, just as I was serving lunch. Neighbour from three doors up who wanted to talk to me about my activities earlier. Not what you might imagine! Apparently, he'd been offended to see me vacuuming (upstairs, windows shut, so he was going some) as it was a Sunday and he's a Christian.

He's a nice enough bloke a bit of a strange one from time to time, but thoughtful enough. He also fancies himself as a bit of a joker so, I laughed and thanked him for his concern whilst patting my tum, I'm 36 weeks pregnant and said that I had to keep moving or I'd become part of the sofa.

I really thought he might be having a surreptitious dig at DH (who wasn't there when I vacuumed as he'd taken DD(2) swimming and had expressly told me not to do it, but I'm nesting like mad at the minute) for not helping. But it appears that he was serious. I reminded him that I'm an athiest and that I didn't think it ought to bother him, but thanks for his concern etc.

Then at dinner time, another knock (timing is excellent) saying he'd really feel much better if we would come to church with them tonight as he was worried about my unborn baby, even though it's probably too late for DD (WTAF!).

At this point I told him the conversation was over and that we were about to eat. He walked away loudly proclaiming that it wasn't over and that he was going to keep fighting this one.

I'm tired, irritable and probably over reacting, but I'm dreading seeing him again now. I'm a SAHM and he's retired, so we bump into each other fairly often. Don't want to blank him completely, but don't want to engage anymore. Not really in a good place to have a full on theological debate.

AIBU to tell him to mind his own bloody business and leave it at that? Alternatively, WWYD in my position?

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ihatethecold · 26/02/2012 19:23

Tell me to mind his own business. Cheeky sod!

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deemented · 26/02/2012 19:24

I'd be tempted to have my other child running round naked when he next calls, then shout at them to 'Get back on that alter!'. He shouldn't bother you much after that Wink

Alternatively, just tell him to feck off.

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blackoutthesun · 26/02/2012 19:24

i'd tell him to piss of thh

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GavisconJunkie · 26/02/2012 19:25

deemented :o that shouldn't be hard, she's at THAT stage anyway!

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ChickensHaveNoLips · 26/02/2012 19:25

Fighting what one? What a strange chap.

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bumpybecky · 26/02/2012 19:25

do you know which church he goes to? if you're feeling up to it you could call the vicar and explain and ask him or her to have a gentle word

either that of fix up a reverse pentagram over the front door? Grin

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ZillionChocolate · 26/02/2012 19:25

How rude of him!

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eurochick · 26/02/2012 19:26

I'd have a word with him about respecting the faith (or lack of it) of others f he tries anything similar again.

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PurplePidjin · 26/02/2012 19:26

Get on to the police a day report him as a stalker?

Tell him to respect your right to religious freedom as you do his?

Get some pamphlets for him about seventh day adventist churches?

Or, if he's misogynistic along with with it, send dh round for "a word"...

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TheSinglePringle · 26/02/2012 19:26

I would tell him you are not interested. Or say seen as it is too late for your DD she might get jealous is the baby is helped Grin

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PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 26/02/2012 19:26

I once sent my then 16yr old pfb, in his "Drink Beer, Smoke Crack, Worship Satan" tshirt, with newborn no4 son in one hand, and the bread knife in the other, to answer the door and invite the Jehovah's Witnesses in to worship with us Grin They have never knocked here again...
Your neighbour needs telling, by your DH if necessary, to stay away from your door, and if he comes back, I'd either call the non emergency/local police number, or pop into your local station and get him on record. Lay it on with a trowel if necessary, then if god forbid he does carry on trying to force his opinions onto you, you have every incident logged if you need it.

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TheOnlyWayIsEnfield · 26/02/2012 19:27

What I said to my neighbour, after a similar exchange, was that if he wanted us to remain friends we would have to avoid discussing religion and politics in future. He hasn't stopped, so I have been speaking to him less. Can't stand this type of thing!

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BluddyMoFo · 26/02/2012 19:27

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w3dnesday · 26/02/2012 19:27

YANBU nip it in in the bud nice and quickly and tell him to do one.

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GavisconJunkie · 26/02/2012 19:28

Pom you shouldn't make such a preggo laugh so hard!

We've lived here for 18 months and although I was aware that he was part of a fairly happy clappy community church, this is the first time he's been so...intense.

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ModreB · 26/02/2012 19:34

I would get in touch with his minister and ask them to have a word with him. If this crusade to "save" you is new, I would explain that he seems to have become more intense and that you are worried about a possible change in his mental state. Failing that, just don't answer the door.

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Whobuilt · 26/02/2012 19:35

Fwiw I'm a Christian and he's talking absolute crap. I bet he is his vicar's worst nightmare! I would definitely tell him to go forth and multiply and whilst he's there read his bible again! Angry

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CremeEggThief · 26/02/2012 19:39

The bloody cheek of him! Sounds as if he's lost the plot and is thinking of himself as a higher authority or something!

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parakeet · 26/02/2012 19:39

Grossly offensive.

I know you said you didn't want to blank him, but he knows no boundaries or even the rudimentaries of social etiquette. If he ever starts trying to discuss anything like this again how about cutting him off with "Sorry, as I've said before, I'm atheist, this subject is not up for discussion.

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Salmotrutta · 26/02/2012 19:41

Sounds like the Wee Frees on the Scottish Islands - they take a dim view of housework on a Sunday and would speak about you if you didn't go to their church.

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/02/2012 19:42

He doesnt sound very well does he?
Maybe he is in a bit of manic phase or something. Specially as he hasnt done it before.

Not wanting you to hoover on a Sunday is beyond fundamentalism. They only people I know who really stick to that stuff are ultra othodox Jews.

But regardless of his MH he is a cheeky fecker and very intrusive.

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Mishy1234 · 26/02/2012 19:43

Wow, that's quite incredible and really, really rude.

On the other hand, he doesn't sound quite with it to me. Our Minister wouldn't think of doing something like that! I would let it go this time (and not let it worry you, you have enough on your plate), but if he persists I would have a word with someone at his church. A quiet work from someone in authority would sort him out.

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Salmotrutta · 26/02/2012 19:49

MrsDeVere - the Wee Frees (Free Church of Scotland) are extremely rigid about observing the Sabbath too.
They are also not exactly tolerant of other churches Hmm

Which is why I'm glad I'm atheist AND I don't live in the Highlands and Islands. Grin

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DuchessofMalfi · 26/02/2012 19:50

Does he walk to church, or drive a car? Because if he drives, then surely that would be wrong too wouldn't it? :o I agree with the pps who suggest finding out which church he goes to and then have a word with the vicar/minister. He's definitely out of order.

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TheCrackFox · 26/02/2012 19:59

Tell him to fuck off. Honestly, how rude is he?

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