I came back to the area after living a way a while. Met my sister's boyfriend (actually liked him) only to hear some rumours from some family that he had been abusive in the past. My sister has a hot temper and this guy didn't seem to tbh.
I get a call from my sister saying he has broken her tooth. I pick her up on the side of the road crying- he's poured a beer all over and roughed her up.
I'm living with my dad who is mostly away with work for long periods of time. She stayed with here at my dad's for a week then went back to arsehole boyfriend.
Now this is my issue. My dad is a nutter. Like proper scary crazy. In fact was abusive to me and my mother growing up (although my sister was the princess and he never laid a finger on her)
Ironically he would lose it if this was happening to my sister- and I have considered telling him- so that he can warn this guy that if he comes near my sister again that he will kill him. I know the boyfriend will believe him- he knows my dad is crazy.
Dh thinks I should stay out of it as my sister wants to be with her boyfriend. He also thinks this will ruin my relationship with my sister. I feel like I would rather know she was safe and not speaking to me. He thinks it will further isolate her as she won't dare speak against the bf if he needed to for fear of my dad losing it on the bf.
But I'm still not sure. I'm scared that if ot escalates I won't ever be able to forgive myself.
Also (we don't live in the UK) and the bf has been saying he is going to get a gun for a while for protection and shooting at a gun range. The idea that he could have a gun the next time they have an argument is also pushing me towards the tell my dad side.
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bitofaquandry · 09/02/2012 03:37
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