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AIBU?

To be pissed off with DH for no reason at all?

48 replies

FootprintsInTheSnow · 05/02/2012 14:09

I know I am!

Case for the prosecution:

  • 4 days of late finishes (10.00 pm/ 10.30 pm/ 7.30 pm/ 8 pm) - which is the point at which I fell out of my tree, so Fri was home before 7 - although I harumphed and was not impressed, as I had a much easier day myself on Friday.
  • He looks perilously close to glazing over when updated on my 33wk bump's braxton hicks/SPD/ kicks and so on.
  • He fiddles with his iPhone during OBEM ( and callously missed last weeks episode, despite being told in no uncertain terms that OBEM is fulfilling the role of antenatal classes).
  • Was having a (long) poo while me and DC were waiting for him to get extra snow clothes out of the car...
  • ... Which was parked somewhere daft, since he'd given his friend a lift home last night after drinks, got stuck in a snow drift, got some passer by to push him out, and finally got home past midnight to find our road impassable.

-... As a consequence of all the above looks knackered - and I just know will get Sunday night sulks
  • As a consequence of my reaction to all of the above, has accused me of having a bad attitude
  • Only has time for sex on weekends.
  • Brings laptop to bed, where it glows and glows while I'm trying to get to sleep or have a conversation with him.


Case for the defence:

  • Got me flowers on Friday, and came home early, because I sulked.
  • Has fetched me my first coffee every day this week (and a bowl of muesli too this morning)
  • Took DC out yesterday morning. Came back with Orange juice and bagels.
  • Didn't grumble about driving around picking up new baby eBay treasures, and braved TESCO to buy little ickle baby clothes with £5 off and a party present. Was much more tolerant than me to the DCs helpful contribution to the above (I repeatedly threeatened to cancel Christmas and Sundays and such like).
  • Helped DS2 do 'cooking' while I supervised the actually competent DD and DS.
  • Took them all out in the snow.
  • Has got them all rounded up on the sofa watching a DVD downstairs, while I MN.


What's the verdict, ladies of the jury?
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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:11

Bloody hell you sound hard work!!!!

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Memoo · 05/02/2012 14:11

Yabu

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Honeydragon · 05/02/2012 14:13

honestly?

I think you've both each done very well to have not killed the other Grin

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JamRagRolyPoly · 05/02/2012 14:13

He needed to shit? Leave the bastard

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SnapesDoxy · 05/02/2012 14:14

yabu and high maintenence.

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NickNacks · 05/02/2012 14:14

Shall we blame the hormones? :)

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:18

Haha! You sound a wee bit like me. 33 weeks pregnant!

He sounds great, which you of course know. But the irritations are still irritating. I'm dying suffering bravely on the sofa with a nasty sinus infection & dizziness whilst he looks after also ill 2 year old, makes lunch. I STILL got v annoyed that lunch (some salad & fresh shop bought tortellini) took 45 mins WTAF! Also annoyed that he looks so miserable. No doubt if he was smiling I'd demand he take that stupid grin off his face.

Good luck to our chaps!

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FootprintsInTheSnow · 05/02/2012 14:19

Of course I'm bloody hard work! I can't walk to the corner of the street without limping and getting out of breath! And I'm surviving on Haribo and tea and token-decaf coffee keeping the work front and the home front ticking. And I'm well aware it's going to get muuuuuch worse before it gets any better - so I kind of need my support crew to be on the ball.

(JamRag - I had, very helpfully suggested doing morning ablutions earlier, but was fobbed off (fobbed off!) by being told that there's 'loads of time'. Which there wasn't. The poo was circumstantial.)

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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:20

Unless one is suffering a significant pregnancy related illness I don't get this pregnancy preciousness people speak of. Please tell me other people just carried on as normal???

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:20

SnapesDoxy, ever been pregnant?

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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:20

Support crew? Fucking hell it's pregzilla

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:23

EDLP, you're such a trooper, no really. What would we do without perfect examples of humanity like you? Tell me, tell me!

Have you never had an irrational moment in your life?! Also SPD & PGP when bad are f'ing serious!

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Honeydragon · 05/02/2012 14:24

Eau she has a pg related illness, SPD.

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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:24

I have been pregnant twice. Had spd the second time. No need for all this drama and 'support crew' cobblers though

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LoonyRationalist · 05/02/2012 14:25

YANBU - I agree with JRRP leave the fucker

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:26

Also preg, 3 dcs & SPD. You're all heart edlp.

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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:26

It's not a significant illness though like gestational diabetes or pre eclampsia. And what's spd got to do with her husband not fawning over her braxton hicks and 'bump'

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:29

There's SPD & SPD. I had it first time, sore, awkward, annoying. This time SPD & PGP, sore, awkward & annoying, crippling on & off. Friend had it, housebound for 4 months, on crutches needed to pee on a potty (upstairs loo). That is not 'nothing'. She nearly lost her mind!

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Honeydragon · 05/02/2012 14:29

My HV was left with a limp for over a year due to SPD, it needs to be assessed by someone qualified surely, as to whether it's significant.

This is going to turn into a boast and belittle thread isn't it? Sad

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:30

Edlp - have you had a recent senseofhumourectomy?

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Sudaname · 05/02/2012 14:30

What is OBEM please? [thick + its been over 30 years since l was pregnant]

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Ghoulwithadragontattoo · 05/02/2012 14:31

Don't make him watch OBEM - that's just mean.

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Snowbeetle · 05/02/2012 14:31

Dunno about it all on balance but I would seriously struggle if I had to watch OBEM - I am not a fan at all. So think I'd let him off for that crime. It isn't your first baby so you hardly need ante-natal classes at all. :)

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cheekyseamonkey · 05/02/2012 14:33

One Born Every Minute, ch4 fly on wall tv programme set in maternity ward. Watch it, even if only once; sometimes it's lovely, sometimes it's like Jeremy Kyle got VERY personal.

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EauDeLaPoisson · 05/02/2012 14:33

Hang on I must have got confused. I thought the format of this forum was OP asks if they ABU- posters reply.

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