We have two children, and since the oldest was 3 months old I have worked full time, to provide for the children.
The agreement DH and I had was that he'd pay all the bills, and I'd pay my car, childcare and children's activities. Any money I had left over from my money went on holidays - this wasn't part of the agreement this was just the way it was.
Anyway oldest child is now in independent senior school (paid for by substantial scholarship and top up bursary, and I pay the minimal left over), and youngest child is going into prep school in September.
There is a substantial hike in fees from preprep to prep, and I was chatting to dh about this this evening. He has said he wants youngest to go to local state school (don't even know if they have space), and have the money for holidays etc.
I have said if we are not sending youngest to independent school, I am going to be SAHM parent, and be there for the children. I explained I wouldn't need car.
He's saying that I should carry on working to spend the money on extra curricular activities and holidays. I want to spend the time with the children.
If IABU about wanting to stop work and stay at home for the children, then tell me so. Part time work is not an option, I have asked my employer they have said no.
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SAHMwannabe · 02/02/2012 21:20
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