Ugh, where to start. I've just about had enough and at my wit's end. In a nutshell my not so DH abandoned me and my son in the UK in March 2010. Since then he has quit his job, moved to the USA, lied, cheated, witheld all of our belongings save for a couple of small bags of clothes. He has bullied me, told me unless I send the boy to the states that he would go for full custody and have son removed permenantly from the UK. He has mad an application in the states trying to make out I've abducted our son, he has lied about his finances, he has lied about how this all came about. He has consistently ignored my solicitors correspondance, has tried to say I've secreted son away from him because I wouldn't give him our exact address out of fear of abduction, has tried to discredit me with my solicitor and has gotten his lawyer to call me personally to try to talk to me about me "refusing to share time" with our son. He has ignored a residence order issued here in the UK and denys any knowledge of it. He has refused to come and visit (supervised as per solicitors' advice) refuses to skype with son (lawyer has told him not to). He calls twice a week. He has made accusations of child abuse, of me being on antipsychotic medications (I'm not). We have a concilliatory hearing next week at the court to try to sort out visitation, but he wont be appearing because he denys that he's had any correspondance from the court. He left us with nothing. And now, to top it all, he has stopped sending child support (verbal agreement) unless I put the boy on a plane. He knows that doing this will put us at risk of homelessness and some days I seriously consider agreeing to his demands and sending the boy over...against the advice of every lawyer/solicitor I've spoken to. I just can't take any more. Every day I question myself: whether I am the bitch he's making me out to be, whether I am the bad mother he makes me out to be, whether it's me who's perception is screwed. I've just had enough and really dont' know what to do anymore.
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trustissues75 · 31/01/2012 12:17
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