Name changed for this, so as not to be outed. This is on behalf of my partner as I've told him the MN "massive" are a wealth of all knowledge on all things child related :)
I'd like to point out he was well seperated when we met, so I have had no part to play in them breaking up or anything similar.
Brief background:
He has young daughters who live with him. His EX P moved out and lives with a friend and has been for some time. They both own the house he is living in with the children. She cannot have the kids at her friends house (no space) so she will only look after them at the jointly owned house in the daytimes when she is off work. She has them overnight either 1 or 2 nights a fortnight (this varies) however, she will only have them in the jointly owned house so he has to go and stay elsewhere. She pays him money each month "maintenance" for the kids for their food and clothes etc. He pays for all the childcare, the mortgage and all the bills.
He is now thinking of putting the maintenance payments through CSA. Things are very up and down and frosty between them at the best of times and she wants to pay as little as possible. He is also considering applying for a residency order. He will allow her as much access as she wants though of course, he has been actively encouraging her to have them more. He hopes going through the CSA will reduce arguments or potential problems in the future if she starts trying to make things difficult.
So, AIBU (or shall I say is he BU) to think that involving the CSA and recieving the money that way will strengthen his case for obtaining a residency order? Also, because the children are living with him 100% of the time and the children always stay there will CSA expect her to pay money towards the mortgage costs? How does this affect the payments?
Any advice greatly appreciated, he just wants what's best and easiest for everyone involved (especially the children) and unfortunately I have no experience of all this so can't help - hopefully someone here may have some advice / been in a similar position.
Thank you!
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EX P and CSA (bit long, sorry)
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QuestionsQuestions123 · 23/01/2012 16:49
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