In having a mid twenties crisis?

[knittedbreast]

Does anyone else know what I mean? or been through one?

How can I feel like time is running away when im only 25? (until next week)

Argh, its a horrible feeling, im being tested in every single way.

Parenting methods, financial situation, dreams (waves goodbye), spiritual warfare.

im too young for this.

[WeShouldOpenABar]

arent you lucky to be having it so early , you can actually do something about it
and you wont look like a twat if you buy a sports car or go out with a 23 year old

[knittedbreast]

i dunno i thought about getting a 50s style pink scooter and men are getting younger....

oh god.

[mummymccar]

It's actually becoming really common now. I was about 23 when I had mine and just remember crying all the time until I got fed up and started changing the things I didn't like. I quit my job, moved half way across the country, re-trained and I'm much, much happier now.
What set it off for me was panicking about mortgage deposits, how much I had in the bank, and coming to that age where I finally accepted that I was never going to sell out Wembley Stadium.
Every single one of my friends went through this too, so don't worry!
If you start feeling really low about it all go to see your GP. I found it really helped once my friends and I started talking about it all, maybe that would help you too?

[CustardIsMyNemesis]

I was 24 when I had mine. Changed my job, cut my hair, bought a motorbike, got a tattoo...

DH is about to turn 40 and was asking me about getting a motorbike the other week. I told him not to be so ridiculous as those things are dangerous

[aldiwhore]

I think if you get one wobble in every decade, you're doing okay!

I have one every year. Shit I'm not a teenager anymore, shit I'm nearly 20, Shit its key of the door time. etc etc., At present its Shit I'm nearly 38 and I like odd numbers.

I'm trying to change all these wobbles to 'yaya, still here'.

custard I did similar at 24, minus tattoo and motorbike! (I did get a very lame yet brave for me piercing in my upper ear, felt like queen of the world, like I say, lame!)

[kittensmakemesqueee]

Makes a lot more sense to do it now than when you're 45

[DoesNotGiveAFig]

You aren't alone! I have a serious amount of stuff that needs changing, that I'm unhappy with. SOmetimes I feel really trapped by my mortgage, other times I'm happy about it...I'm unhappy in my job but love the people and the place etc so it's a hard, head wrecking decision...I am 28

[jan2011]

totally understand....there is a saying about bearing ones yoke in your youth in the bible - its meant to be better this way. i really hope so for us both cos i feel like ive been going through the same things!

[knittedbreast]

I had no idea so many people felt the same. thought i was just being ungrateful/stupid

i havent read that part of the bible, only genesis really (heres hoping it not in that part!).

what does it mean?

i feel like my soul is at war with itself, its very difficult. I cannot quite put into words. I feel like im being forced to face up to things and I wont be free of it til i can do that

[shouldabeenwashedinajug]

I had one of those around mid 20s after listening to the lyrics to Dido's Life for Rent (that dates me I know) and realised that I was never going to end up a homeowning, married mother with a decent career if I carried on living with my loser boyfriend in our vile rented flat.

I dumped him, got promoted numerous times, met a new bloke, bought a house with him, married him, had children...then got made redundant.

Two out of three ain't bad I guess

Seriously though, use it to your advantage. What would you like to change? What can you change?

[knittedbreast]

what wouldnt I would be a better question.

I made the wrong career choices, used up my fees on a course I should never have done. The alt is going to be bloody hard to get into.

thing is it wont shift, its like god (sorry to those who dont believe) is testing me. I had it once before and it lasted around a month. I was in tears and couldnt eat, couldnt sleep, think or study. Iwas being told quite simply, make a choice.

I sort of did, and then it left me. I felt abandonded. but it calls me back.

now I have kids its even harder.

having a baby is easy, having a child is SO hard.

[MyRealName]

I'm 28, and watching this thread with interest... I always wanted to be married to someone I adore (I am), and to be a mother (I am), and to have my own little house (still renting) and to have a fulfilling career (STILL don't know what I really want to be).

Determination to give up the (rubbish) job which has been my safety net at the end of my Mat. leave, and current discussions with DH over whether we can afford a house (we can't really :()have got me twitching...

[littlemonkeybix]

I had panic attacks since age 12 or so... managed them myself... then had a bit of a mega do aged 21. Rocking behind my boyf's bed. It was terrible. but it sounds similar.

Unfortunately, my GP at the time was appalling (long story, won't bother you now with that!) so I hid it some more. Aged 25 I had another do of it, and I was referred to our mental health department by a better GP!

After I received some counselling, I felt much better. It turns out, I'm normal!! Who'd a thunk it hey??!! Other people have ishoos too... even some have the SAME issues as me... I'm not a lonely weirdo that "no one will ever understand"

It's sometimes a matter of just writing a list of things that are bugging you, and seeing what you can do to start sorting through. Even just a tiny tiny thing can make a kassive difference.

I'm now 32, with a pip on the way, house and DP... Can't really say I love my job, but it's serving a purpose, and I have some ambition to move on once I'm settled after the pip is out

We all make choices that sometimes are "wrong".... but that's OK. We can make new choices.

Would it be worth having a word with your GP, see if they can recommend someone for you to talk to?!

I've not had a panic attack since my therapy... felt close a couple of times, but had a little talk to myself, going over some of the points from therapy... and it kind of clicks back into "normal" again.

It helped that I went to therapy with an open mind too... I had no idea what to expect in there, or what I could take from it. I'm glad I went. I wish I'd gone sooner!!

Good luck

[littlemonkeybix]

Oh yeah... I labelled it "my early midlife crisis" too.

[MyRealName]

"a pip on the way". Not heard that, I like it :)

[NearlyPastTheYardarm]

It is absolutely normal. I had mine before marriage or kids or anything - I was 27 and realised I was exhausted from doing what I thought I wanted, but it wasn't actually making me happy. I was lucky that I was able to get away travelling, so had the time and space to work out what was missing. I wonder if counselling as suggested would do that for you? You really do have your whole life ahead of you (consider how young you will be when your kids leave home) so you have the time to figure out what suits you now, and space as well to do it all again in 20 years if you fancy - dreams do change, after all.

[CJ2010]

I experienced this too! I was 24, living at home but wishing I had my own place, kept meeting awful men and was desperate to meet a lovely guy and settle down and I loathed my job.

So, I took control. Signed up to online dating and met a wonderful man, jacked my job in (had a huge row with my boss and told her what I thought if her - I didn't give a fuck and I still got a reference!) & went temping. 9 months after meeting my 'online' man, I fell pregnant and we found a lovely place to live together.

I'm now 28, with two beautiful DC's and still very happy with my DP.

What you are experiencing is a positive thing. Go and live your dreams.