I have two children, ds is nearly 10 and dd is two.
In the past there were far more health visitors and in my area first time mums got visited for the first 6 weeks whether they needed/ wanted it or not. I found it very stressful as I worried about the state of the house. The health visitor gave me lots and lots of "advice" which was just her opinon. She was well meaning but totally and utterly undermined my confidence.
The health visitor I had nearly 8 years later is much better. She used reflective listening techniques and encouraged me to find my own solutions to problems. I have had far less of her time, but she has used it better. Sometimes less is more. For example a ten minute phone call may be as effective as one hour visit.
I think its good having a team of health visitors instead of one. It reduces the risk of emotional dependence and provides more eyes and ear for spotting problems. It also means that if you don't get one with one health visitor you aren't stuck with her.
I think its good there are more groups like surestart and breastfeeding support groups. I think that parenting classes through the children's centre really empower mothers.
The system is not perfect and more complex than ten years ago. One major disadvantage is that it is very confusing to know how to get help. I also think a lot of mothers do fall through the net as you have to be quite proactive to get help.
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reallytired · 08/12/2011 21:37
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