I have a friend/colleague who has just posted on facebook about how 'at times like these you know who your friends are'.
Now I dont know if she means to attack me or someone else but I do feel very annoyed.
You see, we work together, and earlier this year I had difficulties at work with regards to bullying and had to go through a whole grievance procedure that was extremely stressful. My husband also lost his job through redundancy. I ended up in hospital which I wont go into much detail about. I had lots of other problems too.
My friend was not very supportive beyond a few short emails. Every time I asked to meet up for a coffee she would text me 10 minutes before (when I was already at the place waiting) to say something had come up. I really needed a friend but she wasn't really interested. She was also a witness to much of the bullying but would not give a statement.
Now, she's off work sick. Has been off for two months now with 'stress'. I popped round unexpectedly with flowers and she couldn't get rid of me quick enough. She was having a party and looked fine to me. I dont know what she's stressed about to be honest, maybe I shouldn't be saying that, but she's just moved into a HUGE house left to her by her grandmother and also got left quite a wad of money as well.
I've known her 9 years and I've never been invited to any of her homes. I've never gone further than the hall in any of them. She's been here loads of times though. I've given her lifts, given her daughter presents at birthdays and christmases, and supported her through a brief separation 4 years ago with her husband.
At the most recent daughter's birthday I never got a thank you or anything (put a card with money through the door as she wouldn't answer, despite me seeing her through the window!!)
Also she went on a course through work a while back that led to promotion, and moaned about how difficult her new role is, now I'm going through the same course she seems annoyed about it, almost as though she doesn't think I deserve it?
Anyway, sorry to waffle on but I'm just so annoyed that she seems to expect support now when she hasn't been there for me when I've needed her, or has appreciated my support in the past.
AIBU? I've started to back off from her even though we still work together. Is that the right thing for me to do?
AIBU?
AIBU to be fed up with 'part time' friend?
redrosette · 12/11/2011 17:34
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