Could really appreciate some perspective on this!
I have been under a lot of stress lately but am finding the behaviour of my best friend quite upsetting and wondered if my feelings are justified or if I am over-reacting somewhat. ( Which I realise is very possible!). We have been best friends for 13 years, but she is quite set in her ways and things always have to be on her terms (but I am okay with this, it's always been me fitting in around her and if it means I keep her friendship I am willing to do it).
I had to move house recently, not my choosing and quite a bit further away than before. She was not happy about this and has been 'off' with me since then. We both drive but has stated on more than one occasion that she where I live is ''ages away'' and she doesn't want to come over here. That's Fine.
Seems she has increasingly distanced herself since the move etc. We would normally text each other everyday. (we are both in the same profession and like to share things that have happened that day) but this year I have a nice class and she doesn?t ? she doesn?t seem very happy with this and pulls a 'cats bum face' when I talk about nice things my class have done. ( hers are a nightmare and it seems the fact that mine are not annoys her. Mine were a nightmare last year and she was a lot more friendly then!).
We usually meet up in half term but she informed me she was so busy this half term she couldn't see me, sending me a text telling me everything she was doing on each day. She did manage to squeeze me in but still felt like it was a bit of an effort.
To add to this, I was involved in a car accident recently which has left me needing physio to recover etc. When she found out about it all, her first reaction was ?won?t you claiming against him affect his insurance?!? and telling me how unfair it was on him that his premium would go through the roof and asking me if I was sure I actually needed physio etc.
I really don't know what I can do to get our friendship back to what it was. I am sure you're probably thinking I should just socialise with my other friends but truthfully she is one of my only friends that I would consider myself good friends with outside work that I ( would usually) see on a regular basis including meeting at the pool or gym etc.
Any advice? I am also single so can't even moan to a DP about any of this. Spose I am feeling lonely and don?t know how to make new friends. I have moved to a small village where most people are considerably older than me and don't know what I can do to socialise more or make some new friends. :(
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To be upset by this or am I over-reacting?
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redheart · 04/11/2011 19:30
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