SIL has a 22 month old DD who is first grandchild for ILs. Naturally she is doted upon and is very much the centre of her GPs' world, as they care for her 4/5 days a week inc overnight due to SIL's job. She is a beautiful, bright little girl who has excellent language skills for her age, and I do really love and care for her.
However, her behaviour over the past couple if months is getting quite difficult. I have a 4 month old DD, and this little girl is not handling her GP's showing affection for another child. She cries and kicks up a fuss when MIL holds my DD. She takes her toys away and is very rough with her etc. She has also taken to being very rude with me, hitting me, shouting at me to go away and snatching things off me, shouting 'mine'. She also throws food around, deliberately breaks toys etc.
I am fully aware that this is all normal behaviour for a toddler and part of 'terrible twos'. However, SIL and MIL make NO ATTEMPT to correct her behaviour or discipline her in any way. Indeed, most of the time they laugh and say things like "Eee, isn't she funny". In my family, behaviour like this is always pulled up, and I honestly think they are doing this little girl no favours by allowing her to behave like this. She has never been around any other children and therefore I do worry about my DD when she is with her.
AIBU to say something? So difficult because it's not my family. DP often at work so doesn't see much of the behaviour, and he completely adores his niece so I don't want to seem like I'm criticising her. To be fair, it's not her. It's the fact nobody seems to be challenging her behaviour.
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AIBU to say something about this toddler's behaviour?
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poppygolucky · 02/11/2011 20:40
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