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AIBU?

or is this 'just what kids do'?

21 replies

biddysmama · 23/10/2011 20:54

i was hanging the washing out and my 2.5 year old dd came out with me, the children next door were playing out and dd went to the fence to talk to the little boy, he started school in sept so he's 4/5ish?

i heard the boy say,"you do it now" looked up and he had his pants down showing dd his penis, i told him not to do that and took dd inside

when i told his mum she shrugged and said its just what kids do?

dd wasnt bothered, she has an older and younger brother, just wondered if it was nothing? i was expecting the other mum to be a little shocked and i'd probably have been embarrased if one of mine had done it?

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worraliberty · 23/10/2011 20:55

Yep it's definitely what some of them do

BlowHole · 23/10/2011 20:55

Well it might be just what kids do, but they need to be told that it isn't appropriate. If she doesn't tell him this, he will keep doing it. Not fair on him.

SlinkingOutsideInSocks · 23/10/2011 20:56

Mine aren't that age yet, but I understand it is pretty normal. Best just not to make a big deal about it.

lamp74 · 23/10/2011 20:56

I'd probably tell my kid off for doing that, but I think some people seem to think that kind of things is ok... it would annoy me though...

Magneto · 23/10/2011 20:58

At that age, I wouldn't be worried. He probably knows is rude or "naughty" and therefore hilarious.

worraliberty · 23/10/2011 21:02

I'm not sure really Magneto

Going on a lot of threads I've read on MN, nudity seems to be totally normal in a lot of homes...with quite a few MNetters saying they and their DP's walk around naked or willingly leave the bathroom door open.

Therefore, to this little boy it could be totally normal.

Still, his Mum should have told him it was inappropriate.

TheSkiingGardener · 23/10/2011 21:19

Sounds fairly usual, but I would expect the Mum to tell him to put it away. How else is he going to learn?

helpmabob · 23/10/2011 21:24

I don't think that it is inappropriate for children that age. People need to relax more about nudity, especially let kids enjoy being natural before they get all drawn into the shackles of "polite society".

triskaidekaphile · 23/10/2011 21:25

Yes, it's pretty normal. I'd have tried to sound a bit more apologetic if I'd been his mum and seen you were not pleased but it does happen. Some kids get privacy quicker than others and many find nakedness hilarious and desirable until quite late on.

BluddyMoFo · 23/10/2011 21:26

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Whatmeworry · 23/10/2011 21:29

Totally normal curiosity at that age - didn't anyone "play doctors" in their mis-spent youth?

Feminine · 23/10/2011 21:33

My 4 brothers(when small boys) went one stage further.

One of my Dads American clients lent him a video camera ...

They confessed what they had done after he had returned it!

scarevola · 23/10/2011 21:33

Yes, children do this a lot.

I think the best response is a rather bored "Not now, dear. Bottoms are private".

banana87 · 23/10/2011 21:35

Yes, it is what they do. I remember showing my bits in kindergarden because the boy next to me asked me to . And my mom was called in and there was a meeting and I was REALLY told off!

Esta3GG · 23/10/2011 21:38

Kids have been doing the whole "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" since the dawn of time.
Totally normal.

Whatmeworry · 23/10/2011 21:39

DS2 stripped off nekkid with a friend in dance class when in reception, strong words were had with me as of course all the little girls were gigling and pointing very demure and upset. His stock went up 1000% with the girls of course, came home the next day complaining they all wanted to kiss him.

There is a lesson there somewhere :o

Esta3GG · 23/10/2011 21:42

@whatmeworry

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 23/10/2011 21:43

oh yeah. totally normal.

boobs and bums and willies and bits, farts and poo.

Funniest things in the world to young children

HeadlessForHocusPocus · 23/10/2011 22:04

When in reception my eldest dd told me she had seen her friends willy at school. When I questioned her as to why he showed her she told me it was because she had showed him her fairy first

I just had a quiet word about privacy, didn't make a big deal out of it, and now she is 9 and way past the flashing age :)

It's just what kids do. Maybe as she was blase about it, he's been doing it for a while and she is ignoring it (in an ignoring "bad" behaviour way)

wineoclocktimeyet · 23/10/2011 22:36

DS2 (aged 4) current favourite pastime is jumping stark naked on the trampoline.

Apaprently, its not as much fun with your pants on.

wineoclocktimeyet · 23/10/2011 22:36

Sorry, should have mentioned, its in the privacy of our garden [hwink]

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