To think my ex should not talk about his view on my parenting skills to our ds?

[MamaMaiasaura]

I have 2 ds's aged 11 and 3y and expecting another dc any day now. My eldest is from a previous relationship, and he see his dad alternate weekends.

Anyway, when his dad collected him last my 3 year old had a bit of a tantrum. He'd been poorly, was tired and didn't want his bog brother to go. Not often he has tantrums and first time infront of ex. Tantrum was pretty much ds2 crying and not wanting ds1 to go.

When ds1 came home he was quite upset with his dad as hed told him I needed to control ds2 better and discipline him more. Ds1 actually told his sad that his little brother doesn't usually get so upset but he had been poorly. He was upset as his dad made him feel like he had to agree and then felt he'd been disloyal to his brother.

I was quite annoyed that ex put ds1 in this position and also that he was discussing it with him. If he wants to moan about me then he should do so with his partner not our son. I thought about texting him but it wouldn't achieve anything other than put ds1 in a more awkward position. Still I am pissed off. Dreading tonights pick up as ds2 been off preschool with throat infection and not been a very happy boy.

[MamaMaiasaura]

And to clarify, I don't give a rats arse on ex's views on my parenting, just that he discussed with ds1 and put him in a difficult position

[MamaMaiasaura]

Bumpity bump

[worraliberty]

YANBU that's a horrible position to put your DS in

[barrysnotter]

Yanbu what a complete cock, putting your ds in that position.

[ChaoticAngelofSamhain]

YANBU

[MamaMaiasaura]

Just noticed my typos sorry and glad u could still make sense of it. I think I was wondering wether I was being super sensitive. I'm not as annoyed as I was, but just hoping ds1 doesn't have to put up with more crap from his dad this weekend