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AIBU?

or should the nursery not hand out named lists of children attending!

15 replies

Piglet28 · 16/09/2011 18:01

Not sure if this is being unreasonable or a what would you do ... if anything?

Picked DS up from nursery and in his tray are all his pictures, things he has made etc. On the back of one of his lovely scribbles was an attendence list of all the children attending nursery that day (surnames included).

I would have thought that this would have been confidential? Should I say something or is it nothing to worry about?

Thanks

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AgentZigzag · 16/09/2011 18:03

I don't know whether it's normal at nursery, but you can buy Chr***s card lists at the school office which has the names of everyone in the class.

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carabos · 16/09/2011 18:04

Probably a mistake - perhaps it was a piece of scrap paper that they were using for the DCs to scribble on? However, YANBU.

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soverylucky · 16/09/2011 18:04

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Pagwatch · 16/09/2011 18:07

We get sent the names addresses and email addresses of everyone in dds class. We have been getting this since pre-prep.

I know there are situations where parents/guardians don't want this - I am sure I have read many on here - but it works fine for us.
I suspect if you don't want to provide it you should be given the opt out. We had to confirm that we were happy for the info to be circulated.

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Birdsgottafly · 16/09/2011 18:10

There hasn't been any safeguarding breach.

I don't know why you would think that there is a reason why you shouldn't know the full names of the DC's attending the nursery.

You will once they are in school. My DD's SEN school give out full school lists of all the children attending.

It is the circumstances as to why they are in nursery that cannot be discussed.

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Meglet · 16/09/2011 18:13

I'm suprised that it had surnames on it but otherwise I don't think it's a bad idea. I daresay they will be aware of any kids whose names shouldn't be included.

The DC's nursery will give me a list of first names for xmas cards.

Now ds has started school I'm compiling a list of his friends on my fridge for birthday invites / xmas card list.

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Piglet28 · 16/09/2011 18:16

Ok thanks for your replies.

It was clearly mixed up with scrap paper for drawing, and I know nothing can be used from it etc... just wasn't sure if I should say something.

Thank you

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blinkineck · 16/09/2011 18:18

What would be the problem exactly?

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halcyondays · 16/09/2011 18:23

I wouldn't do anything, as I don't consider my children's names to be a state secret. When dd1 started school, we got a list of days and times when they started, this had the whole classes' full names on it, as they started them at different times to settle them in. Dd2 is starting nursery and they are in different groups for settling in, there are lists of full names on the wall.

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ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs · 16/09/2011 18:24

YABU, although you've already agreed you are. This is the first school DD has been at where she hasn't had a list with address, phone number, DOB, parents contact details etc.
It is most inconvenient.

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Avocets · 16/09/2011 18:24

We've had these details (via Parents Association not school) ever since age 3 - with emails, mobs etc - you can opt out if you want to, but why would you. If you don't supply your child's details, I'm not sure that you get a list - and if your child isn't on it, they tend to get left out a lot, as it's pretty difficult organising things without contact details. I'd be lost without it.

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aldiwhore · 16/09/2011 18:27

I request a list from school so I don't forget anyone, get familiar with names, can do invites/christmas cards. I don't see the issue OTHER than it was mixed up with the scrap paper.

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slavetofilofax · 16/09/2011 18:28

I work in a nursery, and I would say this is fine tbh. I would feel slightly uncomfortable if there were birthdates or something on there though.

However, when my ds's school gave me a copy of the plan to accomodate his needs (AS) during his SAT's and it had the names of two other children on it who presumably also had the same needs, I did complain loudly!

If you don't want your child's name being given out on scrap paper, which is fair enough if that's your choice, I would tell the nursery, who should respect your wishes.

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AKMD · 16/09/2011 18:29

YABU, lists with names and contact details are very handy.

That said, DS's nursery is very hot on never linking a child's name with their photograph, so on displays etc. the children are never named in photos. I doubt I would ever get a list of first names from them, let alone a Who's Who guide!