Sorry, just wrote it all out and it's quite long....
Okay, so I'm muslim, and my SIL decided to have a big feast in her house in the evening and invite her neighbours around. Sunset is at around 8.50pm and so naturally a child of 3, who has been awake since 7am without a nap in the day will get fussy and in my daughter's case, a bit loopy from tiredness.
My SIL invited me around to "help" her and that there won't be that many people so being a nice person that I am, I asked her to pick me up at 6.30pm and I also made some food to take along. Our car is broken so I couldn't drive there myself (even though I bloody wish I had).
So firstly it usual custom to sit and pray for a little while before sunset - everyone was quiet in the room and my DD got fussy and started rolling on the sofa. This is the first "look" that SIL gave my daughter. I saw her and took DD upstairs and put cbeebies on the computer for her to keep entertained for a little while. It was about 7.30pm.
Then when fast opened at sunset, SIL starts ordering me around to get things from the kitchen like plates and spoons, and she starts serving up other children whilst my daughter who is really hungry at that stage (she had tea at about 5pm) starts getting agitated. Second "look" from SIL because DD is not behaving again. So at this point I just sat down with DD and started helping her eat as I knew how hungry and tired she was. I got a few looks from her for sitting down and feeding my daughter.
So, at this point I'm thinking of asking my brother to drop me off home, but it's so busy and SIL is adamant she needs me there . So I carry on hosting and offering guests food and water etc...
Finally it got to about 10.50pm and by this point my DD had gone mad. She was running around the whole house screaming and generally being stupid because this is what happens to her when she gets tired. So many times I told her to calm down and sit down, but she wasn't listening to me. I even took her upstairs and asked her if she wanted to sleep but she was too hyper to stop. So we come back downstairs and DD starts running again and SIL gives DD another look and catches her and tells her to be quiet....I WAS SO ANGRY that I ended up shouting at my DD, for no reason and I cried when I got home because it wasn't her fault. My little daughter had been up since 7am, and I had been helping this woman all evening and neglecting her.
So really am I being unreasonable to be annoyed that my SIL kept looking at DD like that? She has 2 daughters aged 10 and 8, who in my memory have NEVER stayed at our house that late with their mother helping me. When they were younger she used to run off home claiming that they needed routine and their sleep, yet it was okay for DD to ruin her routine and then expect her to behave like an older child for nearly 5 hours in the evening.
Tonight I am inviting brother and SIL around for dinner, and I am thinking of saying something to her. My DH thinks I'm being stupid, but I want to remind this bitch that 3 year olds can't be expected to behave at that time in the evening when they're tired. Should I say anything? If so, how could I put it in a nice way so she gets the hint I was annoyed.
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MrBloomsNursery · 07/08/2011 11:31
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