... I can't believe I've just walked out of the house leaving my 3mo behind with my partner but I'm at my wits end.
We've had a real time of it lately with my FIL dying 10 days after baby arrived and partner since losing his new job as the firm weren't keen on someone who'd just had a new baby and a family bereavement.
DH has since been spending every other week away at FIL's house to sort things out, and while here has carried on sleeping on the sofa (started while he was working to help him get some kip) when he is here.
I've been trying to be supportive, trying not to make any demands on DH when he is around and helping sort out FIL's probate / finances / house clearance.
I've been getting concerned that DH's tidying up of his dad's estate will end up taking up all the time available meaning we'll miss out on the opportunity of some family time with baby and DS1 before DH goes back to work. Often what he's planned to do each week at his dad's doesn't get done.
What's really upset me today is that I asked DH if he was going to book an appointment with the solicitor (the reason for going up this week) and his answer was no, and that he'd be going up even if they weren't available.
This is after he's had a weekend including spending Sunday away on his hobby.
I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling and he just found it amusing and put it down to my insecurities and not wanting him to have time to himself. When he's at his dad's he gets to spend time with an old friend who lives nearby and I know that support is especially important to him after FIL's death but I'm beginning to feel completely taken for granted.
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anynamesleft · 04/07/2011 14:40
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